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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
That’s good then. @Faith-and-Hope . I only worked well when I was at home on the practical stuff. Theory was ok to do at uni. I used to miss it but don’t so much now, now I live it vicariously through you 😜😘
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
🤗💕 @Teej
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
It is hard to see unwell one do things they need/want to do knowing that there is only limited time left @CheerBear I very clearly remember my Nan doing those things too until she became too unwell - then every minute I spent with her was special. You and the LF will look back on those special moments with both fondness and sadness but they will be memories you can hold onto forever.
It is very tough seeing how both unwell and well ones are dealing with all this but that is their way and so it has to be okay. It is good that you are helping with appointments and they are in return ...and you get some Pudding time as well 🐶
It is a hard thing to work through - you are probably already grieving for unwell one either though they are still with you and that is tough to have to deal with. Spend as much time as you can with them - that will mean the world to them Hon and also to you 
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TeejSenior Contributor
In a strange mood so hopefully my response is ok.
@CheerBear reading the last part of your post I think I realised that you probably need time to deal with the unknown feelings but from what I know you need that time alone to do it. Can you find a day or afternoon where you can build a nest to 'feel the feels' without having to keep a lid on it so a volcano doesn’t erupt. Sorry fixit mum brain kicking in. I also think you’ll need a day for just kid and mum fun without the heavy too. Even though the kids might not feel the heavy I think you will when you are with well or unwell one. It is a really hard place to be and I’m feeling the feels with you.
I love what @Zoe7 wrote too. I love that you are able to have this time to build memories and relationships. I guess I could see the frustration of how this happened but maybe in the long term it will become less important around the circumstances and more important for just the time and the memories. I don’t know. I could be talking out my backside too 😘.
Hugs
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
For what it is worth @Teej I don't think you are talking out of your backside - you make a lot of sense Hon 
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @Zoe7 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I get that fix it way of doing things @CheerBear and it would certainly be super hard for you to have to sit back with this one. ...but you will need to be there for your LF snd help them through all this as it unfolds - that is where you can refer to all the lovely moments with both well and unwell one and help them to know that memories live on even after the person has gone. It will be a super tough time for everyone and although you wish you could do more right now you are actually doing enough by just being around. Having well and unwell one deal with all this in their own way is so important and you are being super supportive - that is gold in these situations for everyone concerned
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Teej I love your use of
"fixit mum brain kicks in ..."
it is a shorthand for so many things when mums ... and nicely gender balanced ...
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