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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Yes and no with did something happen today @CheerBear. I have some stuff that I guess wound me up from staying one night at my parents. I think that is probably most of it. I think I was also on a 'false high' yesterday and today the crash came early but I fought so hard to keep it at bay. Now I’m home alone the events of the last 24 hours are going around and around in my brain and I’m trying to distract but it’s not happening so well.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Do you do the forum flip outs too @CheerBear? I thought it was just me.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
My family is complex @CheerBear. There is a lot of things said and done for appearances. There are some things that were said and done that perhaps I am overly sensitive to. I’ve tried to write the next bit a few times but can’t find the words. I think the long and the short of it is that I am loved unconditionally which I now understand and appreciate but so much stuff is done and said that is really contradictory and makes me leave feeling not good enough. It’s hard to explain.
Today I met the new friend for the first time for coffee and it went well but then I overanalysed it and am confused again and scared about it and I don’t understand why.......and I’m such a why person 🤦♀️
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
They try @CheerBear but miss the mark with so many things. I never understood how judgemental and negative they are until fairly recently. Today I had to cut off conversations constantly because of the negativity about other people. One of them in particular missed out on learning one of the big parts of empathy - being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. There is much they can’t comprehend about that because the need to be better than everyone else is more important. They are not narcissistic but more need to feel important. There is also lots of things quite familiar to their generation about being stoic and strong. There was no way I could share about the friend today with my parents. They would have judged and disapproved of her.
I really wanted to work with my psychiatrist on the friendship and relationship stuff but the Centrelink bus put the brakes on that for at least another month so I guess it will be rattling around in my brain for a while.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Sorry that my brain is going so slow @CheerBear and so are my responses. I’m hoping that my brain kicks in again tomorrow cos I really need it.
want to know of my stupidly goosey thing I did today? I think I’ve mentioned that I have guttate psoriasis before. There are probably 50ish spots on the bottom of both legs. I haven’t shaved my legs for weeks because I was scared of creating more damage. In my not thinking phase today I shaved them this morning only to look down and see half of them ble-eding 😏. I tried really carefully with the second leg but to no better result. It didn’t bother me and wasn’t painful at all. When I got home from coffee with new friend I looked down to see lots of little bl-ood trails down both legs. I looked like Norman Gunston shaving on steroids. I could have had about 30 or more shaving band aids on my legs. Anyway lesson learned the hard way. No shaving for me! Hairy spotty legs for a while longer. It seriously looked soooo much worse than it was :face_with_rolling_eyes:
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
I thought that might have been the case @CheerBear with land of nod. My house is just starting to cool down now. Every fan in house going.
night. Thanks for the chat. I lost some of my crazy 💜🤗
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