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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks 🙏 @CheerBear.
Am going to try and pull myself together to go and do some things. Am sooooo tired from the combo but still numbish which is nice.
Ciao for now 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
That is all incredibly difficult for you @CheerBear and definitely not needed at all. You can do this though Hon - you are the epitome of strength and courage on here and we all know you will get through this. That does not make it any easier and must feel like your world is imploding again - all very, very tough feelings to sit with. We are here with you CB - still holding your hand, sitting under the lemon tree and wiping away your tears if needed. 💐🌺🌸🌷💜💙💚🧡💛
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
@CheerBear I’m so sorry this happened. I am imagining all the places you’re thoughts would be travelling in. Im so sorry friend is lashing out. I think his thoughts and feelings are valid for him but totally unhelpful for you. It’s truly a case of putting your needs first and ultimately it is about your needs.
Youve got this! Nothing has changed except for a medical glitch. I’m so sorry it’s happened knowing that you have to suffer so much pain and discomfort twice. In a few months time hopefully youll be able to look back and the latest hiccup will be a blip on the radar. In a few months time either friend will be around because he has managed things better or he won’t from a choice you have made. I know future thinking sucks but I wanted you to see the future where the really hard times of now won’t feel so big and overwhelming.
Lastly i I hope that you get through the next bit ok both physically and mentally. You have all of your Cheerbear cheer squad by your side holding your hand and with you in spirit for the next few days/weeks and maybe years. Sending strength and hugs.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
It is us as women that need to deal with all the fallout both emotionally and physically @CheerBear He does not understand the emotions you are going through with all of this - and to be honest probably never will. When it comes down to it it is your choice and that is not one you have taken lightly. If he cannot support you through this then that is another reason for you to have made the decision you have - he doesn't seem like the kind of empathetic or supportive person that you need in this situation and therefore in the longer term would not be either.
I hope you can get the LF sorted for tonight and we will be here to support you through this - it totally sucks that you have to do this all again but I hope knowing we are here for you helps just a little. With you Hon 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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