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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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frogSenior Contributor
With you @CheerBear Just wanted to say bon courage, and that I value your wellbeing too 
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
You have been incredible strong through all this @CheerBear and despite the really difficult decisions you have had to make it seems you have weighed up all possible scenarios and found what is right for you and your LF. As heartbreaking as this also is for you Hon you have done what is right for you and that means it is right for everyone - you are the most important person in all this and protecting yourself, what you have been through, the amazing place you were getting to and your future are the only things that matter.
There are bound to be times of feeling regret or the 'what ifs' in the future but you can approach those knowing you did exactly what was right for you and the circustances you are in presently - and while that may not give you comfort at all times it can help you to get through those down times.
While there is no going back now CB there is a way forward and that path is full of light and love for you - from all of us here and from those closest to you IRL - hold onto that love - feel it, know it, believe in it - and let it guide you through these next few days/weeks and further if you need.
Sitting with you CB and sending you some extra love and hugs today 💛🧡💚💙💜💐🌷🌸🌺
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Do what you need for yourself Hon - that is so important for you today @CheerBear
I will look out for you across the day in case you need support - whether you post or not I will be thinking of you and holding your hand CB
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frogSenior Contributor
Oh @CheerBear I am decorating my little Wollomi tree today, and baking some gingerbread! I have had a hard week, but not like yours. Big impossible decisions just hurt. I heard something recently that resonated with me. It was about how all the paths not taken, potential lives forgone is like a ghost ship that follows us around. The ghost ship is a source of grief and heartache because of the sense of loss it carries. But it doesn't carry us. Our ship, the one that has carried us through it all and carries us still is the one we need to focus on. The ghost ship doesn't go away, but the more present we can be on the ship that carries us, the less the ghost ship haunts us. I know today is too soon, but I hope you will eventually feel steady again on the ship that carries you.
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Dear @CheerBear, with you here too for support and friendship. Personally, I believe you have made the right decision in a situation in which there was no real right or wrong. Again personally, I also believe you have made the most wise and responsible decision, for your children and for you, though I would support you completely had you made the other choice, being your choice and therefore right for you. I hope and believe you will take care of your lovely self with kindness and understanding, having made this so hard decision. I admire how you have come to recognise through this time how much you value the welfare of your children and your ongoing wellbeing. From these experiences we grow wiser, I believe. It's an honour to have been part of a group accompanying you at this crossroads in your life. Much love and care to you and the fish.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
Biggest hugs @CheerBear ❣❣❣
Take care of yourself today, ill be around too if you need someone at all
Helping to hold you in the light
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TeejSenior Contributor
I’m so incredibly proud of you and the content of that post @CheerBear. I’m not going to say anything else much but know I’m with you sitting under that lemon tree as well, most probably being more annoying than helpful but you get that (I’m pretty sure you are winning having cyber me there instead of irl me😜😘)
loads of hugs and strength coming your way 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
You have got this CB - there has never beena doubt in my mind that you would make the best decision for yourself and find a way to get through it whatever you decided. Now is the time to go easy on yourself - especially as the next couple of days will be physically hard for you - but once again you have put your children first and hoping that it all happens when they are asleep and unaware of it all. You are one courageous woman @CheerBear and that has been proven so many times over the time you have been on here - someone to look up to, admire and respect and everything you have been dealing with lately just solidifies my already extremely high opinion of you. Yes CB - you have got this and we are all here with you
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