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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
From what I've read, it sounds like you are ready for today's meeting from planning and preparation already done, @CheerBear. Sometimes it's good to let things work themselves out with things like at this point. I'm wishing you well for it.
So glad you feel a bit better this morning, and that talking about things here helped.
I have another free day here. Not sure what I'll be doing with it yet. Maybe not that much. It's nice to have a quieter week. Recent times have been fairly intense for me.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
The tide is low at midday today, @CheerBear, so it could be the day for a walk. I'm in one of those 'don't jinx myself by planning' moods just at the moment. Yesterday, for example, I did very little of what I planned, but the day was still fine. Pressure-free, especially from my own nagging inner voice, is probably the name of the game for me today.
About your meeting today, I'm believe you've got this. 
I can imagine things might be tricky with seeing friend after the meeting. Glad you will be forthcoming if things are not okay for you.
Long pink clouds give me a lovely mind image. The birds are up here and the sky is mauve. Those cheepy friends have been relatively quiet at this time lately though. Sometimes there's a choral symphony, sometimes just a few soloists.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
I was wondering about what you might say or not say to friend at this stage, @CheerBear. Your decision about that seems very wise. My only advice is to avoid getting impulsive and suddenly letting it all spill. That something I might do without meaning to, and I think it might complicate things in an unhelpful for you at this stage. It is your body and life, and your decision, as you already know. Glad to hear you are so clear on that.
Yes, it's very often a case of 'try to' for me with letting the nagging part of my brain rest. It's often still there in a kind of low grumbling way, even when I'm otherwise okay. That voice can actually paralyse me when I'm not able to ease up with it. It often needs more sleep!
Was really good to read that the appointment for middle went well yesterday. Happy to listen if you feel like talking more about that. Seems like it was a very good start to the process of healing.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
My psychologist suggests that when showering I let all the stresses, worries and tensions wash away with the water, @CheerBear. Enjoy the cleansing feeling. Kind and gentle is the best way to approach things. Definitely on your side, and you've got this.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@CheerBear so much love and many hugs incoming. I understand where you are sitting with all this right now and know that you will make the right decision for yourrself - you are the most important person in all this and although it is a diffiult decision to make I am sure you will do what is right for you. You have our support either way so lean on us as much as you need CB - we are with you 100% and despite it being through a screen you are very much loved here. Super massive hugs coming your way Hon 💜💙💚🧡💛🌺🌸🌷💐
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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