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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Dear @CheerBear, so sorry you are going through all this on top of everything else you have to struggle with at this time of your life. Death (whenever it happens) is a natural part of life, but that doesn't make it any easier to be close to. Love and many hugs to you.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks for your response @CheerBear. I’m so sorry that is the response you got from your support worker. Yuk, I would have got angry and struggled with that too. Seriously! mindfulness apps and are you safe 😑. There’s some check boxes without connection. Sorry. My rant at that. I hope she gets better or you might have to teach her about being a helpful support worker 😜😘
i hope the kids take it ok. It’s ok to remember that this isn’t like anything you’ve gone through before with the kids and that at some stage everyone loses someone close which perhaps brings some 'normality' for you all to be able to grieve together. For the kids I was thinking this is not a loss like they’ve had in the past, this one they can identify with some of their friends maybe in a circle of life kind of way. But like @Mazarita said it doesn’t make it any less painful.
Like you I haven’t experienced this kind of loss yet either. The closest thing was supporting my two best friends through the loss of their mothers in a fairly short space of time. I have to say I would have been better at it now that I understand empathy better.
Last year for me when I was visiting icu it was strange to see that larger than life figure so helpless and very weak too.
Ok me, well I’m going ok so it’s a little easier to support you. My mood is stablish and I have no clue why but I’m taking it. I am looking forward to respite. Not much else is happening, just riding out my biggest's very stressful uni time which he is swinging too in a way he hasn’t before. There is lots of pride on the line and just when you think you know your kids you learn something new about them. It’s been a big learning curve but a good one to learn now. I had a moment last night when I got a phone call from one son who had some good news he had to share with someone and I was surprised it was me. It made me realise he still needs me a bit and that I’m supposed to stay on this planet for a bit longer. Also have supported youngest with his first job without job supervision in my house. He installed ceiling fans. The job wasn’t easy and there was lots of problem solving which he did well. I had to build his confidence and give him accolades. I guess it’s been a week where I felt like I had a job as mum still. Maybe that has helped.......or maybe taking my hrt and meds as prescribed has helped 🤦♀️.
I have a family birthday tea tonight so this will probably be my last post today. Wishing you all the best for tonight and tomorrow. 💜
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
so sorry you are going through all this on top of everything else you have to struggle with at this time of your life. @CheerBear 
here for you xx
hello @Teej, @Mazarita, @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hugs and hugs @CheerBear ..... and grrrr for sucky not-supportive box-ticking automon “support” people ..... grrrr again ......
O don’t think I can say anything more or better than @Teej has ..... other than that I have been there, and it was my first major loss ..... and it’s just 🌵 ..... and I feel your aching heart .....
💜💐💕💜💐💕💜💐💕💜💐💕💜
And @Teej needs to stay in the planet a hellava lot longer cos there will always be things that baby dragons want to tell their Mama ..... always ......
💜💐💕🌷❣️
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
here for you @CheerBear, sitting with you and giving you hugs
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear, been thinking about you but mindful of being a stalker too :face_with_rolling_eyes:🤔. I also was mindful of not wanting you to feel like it’s all consuming. Checked out other threads which seems like everything is going okish given the chaos that is going on for you. You are doing so well. There’d be little bits of teej splattered all over the forum (lots of teej shouting loudly in crisis me thinks) and in real life if it was me 😳😬.
My mood is currently a cross between first gif (I hope it works) and this....
...meaning I’m all over the place and have been for a few days.
I go into respite tomorrow. I’m at the nervous, I really hope this works out stage.
I had an appointment with psychiatrist this morning. Have been beating myself up ever since. I wish I could think through things more thoroughly when I’m in it. Today I decided that a little bravado was called for and it meant that everything I said was half truths. I didn’t mean to and didn’t lie as such but didn’t think through things enough for a truthful answer. I can see I am going to have to write pages between each appointment......firstly to correct everything from the week before, then to talk about the stuff she raised that did my head in and lastly to bring up stuff I’m struggling with 🤔
I don’t think I posted this. I took it weeks ago of my garden cheer and created the collage but mood changed and I forgot it. I found it today and thought of you.
Thinking of you and your roller coaster. 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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