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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Oh that sounds hard @Former-Member. I hope they can find some funding and support.
Oh im sorry about the extended visit. It must be terribly hard with them gone and the weather not giving you a break either.
Maybe just having appointments will give you some time while you’re out to do some impromptu things with them. I hope they come home and give you a lovely honeymoon phase. I remember the first few days were great and then back into normal behaviour after coming home from seeing their dad. 🤞 that all is ok.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Oh @Teej
I have had to reclaim myself from my animals too. I kind of indulged them in a way and never felt I could say "no" for me .... even with the bloomin cats!
Since I have had a mental health care team and been focussed on boundaries, I am settling a lot better within myself about all those tons of little things that happen every day in family/pet life.
We can be so hard on ourselves. Often we dont even see it until its a habit.
@Former-Member Thats right your hols are later than here.
I think most mums lose themselves in the heavy duty child rearing years. You are doing a fabulous job, running the household, the classroom and just BEING there. Have you got anything planned for you while the children are away?
Keep hanging in there Bella.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Mine needed to be separated @Former-Member when they came home. As long as they had space away from each other things were ok. They just needed time out from each other after time away so I guess my honeymoon phase was them giving each other a wide birth for a few days. I wouldn’t see s3 for the first few days as he’d take off to find friends to catch up with (I guess this is when he was older than yours) s2 would hide in his room and read. The others just entertained themselves with their toys. It’s weird how they all react differently.
Take the hugs while while you can. I know it sucks that this is so destructive to you all. It’s a sucky system really. You know when I find that magic wand you’ll get first use 💜🤗😘
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @Appleblossom it’s nice to hear it’s not just me. I’m hoping respite might help sort some of those boundaries out.
Cheers bella 💜🤗
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Teej:
About a year ago I decided that it was really silly to accept them sleeping on me and putting out my back. Dumb Dumb, but I had to value me to even think of setting a boundary. Once I had firmed it up, inside myself, it was easy to solve. You guyz I love you but you Cant sleep ON me.
Yeah it was the dominance game ... but really.... eye roll emoticon needed.lol
@Former-Member We are good atm. Yes do your plans, or at least 80% .. lol
Time for me to log off.
Good Night ladies.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Love and hugs @Teej @Former-Member @Appleblossom @CheerBear .....
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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frogSenior Contributor
Hi @CheerBear good to see you about. How are you travelling?
Hi to @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member too. Wishing you well today.
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