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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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PepsimaxSenior Contributor
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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi all,
As @marchhare posted, we have followed all our processes and procedures. For those who are curious - when there is concern for people's wellbeing, a decision is made about whether to escalate to emergency services or not. This decision is made based on the legal assessment criteria the police use in order to break confidentiality and privacy laws. This is the exact same process as helplines, such as LifeLine use. As you can imagine, there are very strict privacy laws. If the criteria is met, then we are able to escalate, and contact emergency services.
While I know it's easy to jump to worst case scenario, it's important to keep in mind there could be numerous other reasons behind this post. We are concerned too, but we also need to have an open mind.
You are all such great supporters, you did all you could and you all did a great job of supporting Zoe. Uncertainty can be really tough to deal with, in matters like this.Today it's important to take care of yourselves. If you need someone to talk to - please reach out to your supports. Lifeline (13 11 14) or SANE Helpline (1800 18 7263) are just a couple of the options you can contact.
Take care,
Nik
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PepsimaxSenior Contributor
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TABSenior Contributor
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@utopia, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Shaz51, @Faith-and-Hope, @BlueBay, @Former-Member, @TAB, @Pepsimax, @Kurra and to all of our caring forum members
Sadly it's the nature of our forum that we'll reach points of real concern for our members from time to time. It can be really hard to strike a balance between supporting others and looking after yourselves. Particularly as many of you have your own struggles that ebb and flow. So sometimes you have more capacity to provide support than others and at times you're more deeply affected by what you read.
I'm stepping in for Rockpool tonight for the Topic Tuesday in the carers forum. If any members would like to discuss how they're feeling and how to balance care and compassion for yourself and for others, I'll be there from 7pm to 9pm.
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Ffm48Senior Contributor
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, @Shaz51 for thinking of me. To be honest I have been struggling and didn't know how to put it into words. It's taking all my energy, just to get up and keep house at a reasonable level. Have become slack with daily hygiene which disgusts me. Can't be bothered cooking properly. So I have a bit of work to do to get myself sorted. I have a doc appt this arvo, diabetes review, I think I'll make an appt for the psych at the same time.
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ShimmerSenior Contributor
Hi @Ffm48,
I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling. Sometimes it can be really hard to keep on top of daily tasks like housework when you are exhausted by other things. I hope that you can be compassionate with yourself and realise there's no need to be hard on yourself about this, you are just going through a tough time right now and will get back into it when you can. Is there anyone who can help out with the house stuff in the meantime?
Good on you for booking in to see the doctor and organising an appointment with your psych.
It's okay if you don't know how to put all your experiences into words, you know your friends here like @Faith-and-Hope and @Shaz51 are thinking of you anyway 
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