not feeling good

Hi @BlueBay

Just checking in with you as you mentioned that you felt it would be better for the whole family if you ended it all.

That sounds really hard having a blow to the finances like that. Would hubby understand its because you were sick?

I'm wondering whether you have someone you can speak to right now? Are you worried about your immediate safety?

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Let me know BlueBay,

Zahlia

@BlueBay Leaving or ending it all isn’t going to change the bank balance. It won’t be better for the whole family, all it does is shift the pain you’re feeling onto them.

I dont know the circumstances within your family, wether your kids have income or not, but from what I understand your son that still lives with you is old enough to have a job. If they aren’t already paying board, it might be time to start. If you don’t want to charge them board, then tell them they have it easy but this week they need to contribute to get your bank balance into the positives. If they have money to go out and socialise with friends, then they have money to contribute to your house hold. It may seem harsh to ask, but

being homeless is far more harsher. If they already do pay board, well this week they need to pay a little more. I’m sure if you mention it is needed this week, they will be happy to help, sometimes help is right in front of us, we just need to open our eyes and see it and ask for it.

You are not the only person responsible for keeping the household running, and you’re not the only person responsible for keeping a healthy bank balance. You can’t do it all on your own, you’re only going to make yourself ill again.

Pride has its place, but this week pride can’t reside in your home. If need be, move it from self pride to being proud of your family from pulling together and averting a crisis.

Please dont try and do this all on your own, you are a great mother, and a brilliant grandmother, it’s now time for your family to show you the values you’ve instilled in them and step up to the plate and get your WHOLE family out of this problem.

Take care my friend, I have been thinking about you a lot lately. You will get through this, and you don’t need to do it alone ❤️❤️

Hi @Zahlia @Razzle

it’s been a struggle for a while now. And I feel I’m alone in this.

My hubby has no bloody idea what we have in our account. And that makes me angry. Really angry.

I cant think right now.

Will have to ask our son and daughter to help out fir this week.

Triubke is how many times have our kids helped out - heaps.

Such a terrible parent. Parents are not meant to ask kids fir help especially money. But there is no choice. Yet again “no choice” I hate those words. I don’t have a choice in some things at the moment and it is making me angry.

My head is in a spin.

Ive got a psychologist appt this week which I’ll have to cancel. I feel thst we have to put our house on the market - no choice again.

Damn I can’t think. I need to be on my own for a while.

Do you know how guilty I feel at the moment. Guilty fir not working more hours to hrlp our finances. Guilty fir being in hospital.

@BlueBay

There is always a way through adversity Bluebay, and I believe in you. Please believe in yourself.

Sherry 🌺😊🌸

Thankyou @Former-Member xx

right now I csnt see any good. Any positives. I need to sleep and hopefully tomorrow I can see a way out of this mess.

Don’t know how we’re supposed to buy food this week. Or petrol. I have to stop worrying but it’s me. I’ve slways been like this.

This is when I just want to escape to avoid dealing with it because it’s painful.

@BlueBay, my wonderful sister ,you can do this , and we are with you everry day xoxo

Thankyou sis @Shaz51 xxx

it’s hard Shaz when I have no control. There is simply nothing left. Zero.

I feel like giving up.

Life is difficult and not fair.

you give up , no wayyyyyy my sister @BlueBay

you are sooooo strong xoxo

I lost my uncle today ,my second dad which was wayyyy better than my real dad

my sister @BlueBay , you can do this xoxo

I’m sorry sis thst you lost your uncle

my deepest sympathies to you and your family @Shaz51 ❤️

i think I need to sleep and then work it out tomorrow

hugs my sister @BlueBay , sitting with each other xoxo