not feeling good

I’ve decided to not go to hospital because of money. I can’t afford yo have two weeks off work. We would be in crisis if I did thst. It’s sll my fault. I’m to blame. And I csnt fux it anymore. I don’t know.

Ive just emailed my psych snd told him. I’ve said I’ll try new meds but I’ll need his extra support while doing this. And I’ll tslk yo my doctor as well. I can’t afford to nit get paid that’s $750 I would lose a fortnight.

Im struggling to keep the tears away today. Every bit of my strength thst I have left us trying to hold on. But I don’t kniw hiw much longer I can do this.

Its just shit. I need yo go dnd be on my own. Think about my stupid life dnd how pathetic it is. How hopeless I am.

Can your boys contribute more @BlueBay - if they were living on their own they would be outlaying more - I know you want to be abe to support them but times are tough and they are adults so need to be responsible for some of the bills also. Maybe it is time to sit down with all your family at home - husband and sons - and go through just how severe your financial position is. You had your hours cut back and that was not your fault so you have to find a way around all this with what you are presently earning. You may find that your sons are happy to contribute more when they know the situation.

I am glad you made an appt through your community support centre re financial advice - they maybe able to suggest other options. @BlueBay

You may of already thought of this - but could you discuss a reverse mortgage loan or similar with your financial advisor? (Beware there is interest with it, but they can explain all that). It could get you by until up can pick up your hours again perhaps. There are A few things you could do

@BlueBay I was in a similar way, still am but not as bad now, but my financial councilor said that you can apply to get $10,000 from your super under hardship situations, i didn't go that way as my super is hardly anything in it, it might be worth just asking about it with your financial councilor.

I am living with my 2 older sons in their late 20' and have the same thing with trying to get them to help pay bills so i usually end up with nothing left on DSP payments.

Hi @BlueBay .....

Hearing you ......

I have an in-law family that is really focussed on weight and appearance, and it is very uncomfortable. It gets in the way of living a normal, balanced, healthy life.

Well done on the health changes you have made that will help in the longer term, whether others are noticing yet or not ..... keep gently in that direction and the results will start to make you feel better about yourself. I always say that success is the best antidote to miserable things that miserable people say to upset others ..... rise above it Hon, and stay focussed on improving your situation in baby steps.

Going to see the counsellor is good. She can see from your budget that intervention is necessary, and there may be a way to access your super-fund as an emergency procedure to help you get things into a mvetter state for your health and well-being.

Hugs ❣️

@Faith-and-Hope@saturnzoon@Former-Member@Zoe7@Shaz51

Im not sure what to say or do

ive been on the couch dissociating snd taking a while yo come bsvk out of it

you all have given suggestions Thankyou. I don’t know whst to do so tired and overwhelmed.

I’m sorry need yo be alone. Got some thinking yo do whether I stsy or go. In a really bad headspace at the moment.

I will try to rest.

Rest is a good move when things are overwhelming @BlueBay .....

I think I will chat online with lifeline tonight. I’m struggling with quite a few things tidsy snd i csnt seem to calm myself down. I had a rest before but it’s escalating agsin. I’ve got too much on my mind.

I think I will see the financial counsellor snd see what she says.

@Faith-and-Hope@saturnzoon@Former-Member@Zoe7@Shaz51

Good on you @BlueBay .... just keep stepping forward, and rest when things feel impossible, until some strength returns to keep going again ..... you will find the way .....

way to go @BlueBay xxxxx