Hi @BlueBay,
It come down to my life before material posessions, I had my family come along with me to see my Psychiatrist to talk about how I needed to deal with getting better and then worked out what material posessions I could do with out in the short term. I talked to a finanical institution to sort out my debts and started to work on getting my self into a better head space. I know if I could get my self mentally fit then i would be able to get into a position to be able to work on getting those material things I went with out , back! I have found as i went along trying everyday to get my mental health in a better place that my wants for material things changed. I hads to put my self first , as I had to be more reliable to my self before I could be reliable for anyone else. It was/is not easy but for me it was a better use of my energy than just worry. I found I have better focus and my mental health is getting better, my physical health is on the improve. I think for me the hardest part was getting my family to buy into the plan. once they did then we all worked together to all have a better life together.
First: you must believe in doing a form of CBT ( Cognitive Behavoural Theropy ) , learn to beable to eventually do it at home.
Secondly: practice relaxation, Diet is extremely important, Phyical exercise is also important.
Thirdly: never give up, find away to be happy, nothing in life worth having is ever easy and you are very much a worthy person so everyday work hard on believing in the good points about your self and through learning to relax you start to find a better version of your self and things will start to seem lighter on yourself.
I have my ups and downs everyday; I just tend to try and focus more and more on the happy things in my life and everyone in my family are starting to be more relaxed and together.
Remember:- workout what you needed to concentrate on to help with your mental health and put a solid plan in place.
- Have your family on your side as best as you and them can.
- You must sort out your finances so it takes some of that pressure off of you
- Work on your Mental, Physical & Diet Health
Everything works hand in hand and it's something that you will need to work out away to have a plan you can keep to and have your support system there for when you are down.
I hope this helps and it is different for everyone so be kind to your self , I am back at work part time and in a job that I never before seen my self doing, I am happier and more relaxed and my family dinamic is good, and it is some what different then before. my whole family has changed in there way of thinking and two of the most important lessions I have learnt is: find what my triggers are and learn how to deal with them & to know my limitations on what, where and when I can go out so as I can keep a better and steadier handle on my mental health.
Keep with it,
with all happiness,
@Dogman
