not feeling good

Morning @BlueBay

Yes it is annoying

This women certainly has her own 'issues' if she needs to be so rude and cruel to others. Gossip is destructive - and the one doing the 'gossiping' oftenlacks their own 'life' and that is why they need to be so nasty about other people. Don't let it get to you - as you said - you know he is not his mother and he is a good guy - that really is all that matters.

What are your plans for today - other than the dreaded packing!!!!!?

It's raining here but not very cold - which is a good thing. I am going totry and get motivated enough to start sorting out some of my school 'stuff' that I collected from work the other day. I literally unpacked the trailer and care and 'dumped' it all in the spare room. I need to at least make some room to be able to get in there to find other things I need - like my clothes lol

My plans for this afternoon are really simple @BlueBay - lay on the couch and watch the football - I'm pretty sure after sorting stuff in the spare room this morning I will be exhausted by about lunch time!!

Enjoy your breakfast with your friend ... I'll be sitting on your shoulder still so don't forgetto feed me a little also lol

I'll be jumping on and off here today - and probably not staying long when I am logged on - see how I am feeling - but give me a 'shout out' if you need and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

Take it easy today my friend and just try to enjoy the little things....

Zoe

That beautiful little yellow flower is going to stand tall today @BlueBay - I believe

Have a great day my friend - chat later

Hi @utopia

I know what you mean - I have the same feeling myself at times - and it also seems that there are quite a few new members - so we have a need to reconnect with those we know and those we have just met

And I wonder how many people I have forgotten - it's normal in websites ands groups for members to come and go - some people become committed members, other's do not

So I think we chat a bit when we reconnect and take it easy in finding our feet again - and we only take on what we can and there are times when we feel fragile - so part of self-care is like going back in the pool after winter - stay in our depth until we feel our confidence return

Self-care is vital - it is a joke and meant to be a joke that we have to have our favourite chockie around - and as a joke and currency that is fine - but in reality it is not a serious issue but dark chocolate is a better choice - it does not stick to the teeth and invite more like sweet chocolate - and I find that a square of 4 small squares is fine - and it does take the urge for more - so that's the chockie choice

We all need to eat sensibly - but that is a focus - not a ruled - I am not in favour of the food police at all - but keep our minds on the fruit and vegies and protein - but let's not go overboard

And sleep - that is important but again no hard and fast rules - we sleep when we can - and let's not let the sleep police have to much of a say - and yes - use the night shift thread to chat late at night - a chat and keep off the heavy information could be - what - half and hour - and then try and sleep again

These are just suggestions - I have been thinking about self-care a lot lately with the change of seasons - I want to think about soup - use up some vegies and what I don't eat off the cook-chook I buy on Fridays - that would be easy - soup is always good to have handy

Enough suggestions - I like to re-read my essay questions - and a good idea here too - how do we instigate sliding up?

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That is not good - graphics is not my strong point - the the up-part is not slide - it's even wobbly - I'll have to work on that

But yes - seeing as we cannot change anything for anyone - we can only let people know they are valuable and welcomed and in a safe place here - and be honest because that is the best we have to offer - if we really struggle if someone else's struggles - uh ha - not good for self - care - just send some little hearts -

We are all vulnerable here - some more than others - I am an up-and-down person and I have long spells of being okay - but I can fall apart in a moment so yes - we can only do what we feel is the truth and if a message is too hard for us - leave that for someone who might be better able

I don't mean to be harsh at all here - just really into self-care - the person we need to care about most is ourselves

Lots of hugs Utopia - you are one of the best

Dec

Aw - what crap @BlueBay

Some people cannot wait to spread the evil news - whatever goes on in their tainted little minds is not your problem - nor mine either

How many people already know someone significant person in their lives has some bad habits and keeps that to themselves rather than gossip? Many!! There are women who know their husbands are having affairs and while they don't say anything it's okay for them - maybe not for everyone - but for them - okay -

And you have already mentioned that your dd's future mil is into some bad habits - you don't need to be told - her son is not his mother - you have a perfect example in your own life - you and not your mother -

It's such a pity that some person like that can spoil your evening - you can grow self- confidence - and turn of garbage like that with a polite - "Yes - I know and I prefer not to discuss it"

Great conversation that one - yes - there are so many people with fingers in other people pies I never eat pies - so sorry an interferring gossip had to get into your private stuff - alas

It's easy for me to say don't let it get to you - but I know this is hard - it's harder for you esp right now with so many things happening

Take it easy today - we have had thunder up here - yesterday and this morning - and heavy rain - heyyyyyyyyyyyy - that windstorm yesterday was really something wasn't it

Thinking of you - can I find some of those multi-coloured hearts today?

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