not feeling good

Thanks @Former-Member xxoo

@Razzle, I'm in a situation like yours in regards to your son and his baby, my son has just had a baby with his girlfriend who is now a month old and it breaks my heart that his girlfriend doesn't want anything to do with me when I have only met her once before she got pregnant for a couple of minutes.

How do you cope with it, I use to go on Facebook quite a bit, but after today, I've told him I can't go on there anymore because the baby pictures are to painful, and his girlfriend won't come down north as she hates it's it,

How do you cope with it, 4 months is such a long time and so sorry that has happened, I just don't know how to, everytime I see Babies it just reminds me off him.

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I'm very sorry @saturnzoon reading about your struggles with your grandchild.
it breaks my heart

hugs ❤️❤️

@BlueBay, my sister

I am suffering similar @saturnzoon . I have a few photos.

I have been advised to seek legal advice which I am doing next week.

@saturnzoon It’s a terrible situation to be in, it’s heart breaking. I know I’ve done everything to welcome my sons partner into our family, her own mother is abusive and toxic and has such a hold on her.

As for coping with it, initially I didn’t, it got so bad that one afternoon a few months ago it all got too much and I almost did something stupid to myself. Followed that up with a lot of dissociation, and then came to the realisation that there will never be a relationship with my grandchild - UNTIL she’s old enough to be curious and want to seek me out. I have all the hateful text messages and proof of what this girl has been like, and my grandchild will know the truth then.

This baby is only 6months old and I’ve only seen her a handful of times. I know in my heart of hearts I’ve done nothing wrong. The babies mother comes from a toxic disfunctional family so until she seeks help with her own issues we will never be able to be a part of her or her babies life.

There are legal avenues we can access, but while my son has a role in the child’s life we won’t go down that road. BUT, his relationship with his partner won’t last, that’s blindingly obvious, so when it all finally falls apart we will hit those legal channels hard.

As for now, I just feel empty. I skip over her posts on fb, but every now and then she’ll put something up just to hurt me. Everyone knows what she’s like, so most of the time she doesn’t get the reaction she’s after, no one replies to her posts or likes them. I just ignore them now, not that I ever responded to them anyway, I don’t play my life out on social media.

I really hope your situation changes and you are able to have a relationship with the baby. And I hope your son, much like my own, finally grows a set of balls and stands up for both you AND the baby.

Sending you lots of ❤️❤️

@Appleblossom Good luck with the

legal advice. When we sought it we were told that it would be a long hard road - and when the time comes we are totally prepared for it. it shouldn’t have to be this way, but grandparents do have rights too.❤️❤️

Hugs @Razzle @Appleblossom @saturnzoon for all the heartache you're all going through.

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im sitting at the beach on my own reading my book. I feel really anxious about the future. I don't know why but I get very scared thst something bad will happen.
I had a terrible dream last night. Thst my ex psychologist sexually attacked me and I ended up in hospital and my mum was there and I told her about my brother.
Such a horrible dream.
anyway just enjoying the sun and trying to stsy positive.

@BlueBay

Bad dreams are hard.

Good Books on the beach is good self care provided you are wearing sunblock etc...

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