Hi again @BlueBay
I think your mother just likes being difficult - some people are weird about mobile phones - personally I think they are great - you can answer a text or not - and you can always ring back if a call comes at an inconvenient time.
My mother would catch me on the wrong foot - every time - and my sister does the same thing - I don't have anything to do with her - she is just plain toxic - I have dreams about her too - I always feel uneasy about those.
It's really time your D moved out - I can almost feel it getting under your skin - you need your own space - it was an emergency when she moved in - now she's had some practice with her partner - and you know now - if there is a next time your answer is going to be more deeply considered -
It's okay to put yourself first - I can't make that point more strongly because it's your house and your home and your space and this is where you need to have the authority about what's done when and where and how - I would not be able to share my life with anyone after all these years - I don't want to - I am well and truly entrenched in my own life and understand how edgy having some many people around can make you feel - gotcha back there BlueBay - I do understand
I am surprised that the chance of a death when you have made travel plans can't be insured - is that just Jet Star? I know it's a cheap airline - I used it myself in the past - not now - I will have to ask the next time I travel if having a death occur leaves a person out of pocket. Maybe it's different if someone is in a nursing home but people can't plan a death - not really easy that one - and your MIL has been hanging on for a couple of weeks now - which has to be a major stressor - got that too - wow
So - you will be taking your holiday anyway - I have always said the dead can wait - it will be a relief for you and your husband when the old lady passes - you planned your holiday before all of this and I hope you do go ahead and enjoy yourselves - you deserve it - you have been waiting for a long time
A might be feeling jet-laggy because the clocks went forward at the weekend - I know I am feeling out of sorts generally and always have since it started again in 1971 - I was pregnant with my daughter then and I had my little son - he had trouble adjusting too
I think a lot of people do - esp when we put the clocks forward
My back has been very uncomfortable recently - stress doesn't affect my back - stress gives me bad headaches and I had one of those yesterday -
I'm glad you had a short walk and a coffee after shopping
It's time for me to have lunch -
All the best - this time of your life won't last forever - it will be so much easier when you have your house to yourselves
Dec
