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Hello 👋

louisa694Senior Contributor30 June 2023, 4:16 pm AEST

Hello 👋

Firstly I wanted to drop in and say hello 👋

I’m struggling with living my life at the moment.
I’m very quiet person and I don’t really talk to people. I either don’t know what to say because I’m soo dumb or I just don’t feel like talking. I can come across being rude but I don’t mean to.
I feel very lonely. I only have a few friends but that’s it.
I’m sick of being a shy person. I just want to have confidence but I have none.

The lack of confidence is making me miserable.
I feel soo grumpy and I never smile because I don’t like who I am as a person.

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louisa694Senior Contributor07 July 2023, 4:15 pm AEST

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Hello @outlander @tyme

I also find texting and writing more comfortable than speaking.

I struggle to hold a conversation, but if I ask lots of questions, it will help keep the conversation going I find.

The more practice you have with speaking to people, you’ll become better at it.

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2023, 5:20 pm AEST

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i find im much better at typing or writing too. i find words much easier for me compared to speaking in person. but its better then nothing and its a great way to start out

@louisa694

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louisa694Senior Contributor07 July 2023, 5:36 pm AEST

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@outlander

What’s good about typing or writing to someone is that you have to time to think about what you’re going to say and how you are going to reply. Whereas with speaking you need to answer/respond to the person straight away. ❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2023, 5:41 pm AEST

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yes of course @louisa694

i guess we do have to try and speak in person at some point though. it does take time to build that confidence. ive been trying to tell myself fake it till you make or feel the fear and do it anyway!
sometimes it works but sometimes it doesnt

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louisa694Senior Contributor07 July 2023, 7:36 pm AEST

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Thats great advice @outlander

Fake it until you make it. Love that.
Sometimes we just have to step out of our comfort zones and make an effort to talk to people in person.

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2023, 7:42 pm AEST

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we can only try out best @louisa694

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louisa694Senior Contributor09 July 2023, 8:27 pm AEST

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@outlander

That’s right… Baby Steps…

How was your weekend?

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 July 2023, 8:31 pm AEST

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i worked most of the weekend @louisa694 and had a really big clean up today out in the backyard so im super tired. have one more day off work tomorrow before back at it again though

how has your weekend been?

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louisa694Senior Contributor09 July 2023, 8:43 pm AEST

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@outlander

Yeah you would be tired, for sure…

This weekend I was filling out a job seeker claim on Centrelink because I’m currently not working at the moment. That was a headache but anyway I got it done.

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outlanderSenior Contributor09 July 2023, 8:46 pm AEST

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oh dear @louisa694 that can be a painful process. hopefully centrelink doesnt make it do long of await for you

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