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louisa694Senior Contributor30 June 2023, 4:16 pm AEST

Hello 👋

Firstly I wanted to drop in and say hello 👋

I’m struggling with living my life at the moment.
I’m very quiet person and I don’t really talk to people. I either don’t know what to say because I’m soo dumb or I just don’t feel like talking. I can come across being rude but I don’t mean to.
I feel very lonely. I only have a few friends but that’s it.
I’m sick of being a shy person. I just want to have confidence but I have none.

The lack of confidence is making me miserable.
I feel soo grumpy and I never smile because I don’t like who I am as a person.

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louisa694Senior Contributor02 July 2023, 1:15 pm AEST

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Hi @Shaz51

I’m spending my day with my family. I’m sitting next to the fire on this cold day just relaxing and keeping warm. I’m about to do some cooking for dinner.

I hope you’re having a lovely day.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 July 2023, 1:32 pm AEST

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That sounds very nice @louisa694 , enjoy

We just had lunch , now just relaxing in front of TV

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june23Senior Contributor03 July 2023, 2:30 pm AEST

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I feel the same way @louisa694, it can be hard to find people that get me and don't think I'm being rude when I'm really just quiet and shy! In terms of holding a conversation, one thing we have going for us is that a lot of people like talking about themselves and being asked questions so that's something for us quieter people to do haha 😆

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louisa694Senior Contributor03 July 2023, 9:15 pm AEST

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Hi @june23
Yes for sure. The friends I do have love talking and are great talkers which is good for us quiet people because we don’t have to worry about what to say haha so all we have to do is be a good listener 🙂

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 July 2023, 9:24 pm AEST

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hi @louisa694

i can relate to your post. im also a shy and unconfident person with minimal friends. its quite a difficult place to be in.

perhaps instead of focusing on making new friends for now, how about building the bonds between you and your current friends stronger? perhaps you can challenge yourself by going out with a friend or 2 more frequently or to a new place something like a restaurant. that way you can build up some confidence with those you know and then start taking further steps to meet new people

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louisa694Senior Contributor04 July 2023, 7:27 pm AEST

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Hi @outlander

That’s very helpful and that’s such a great idea strengthening my bonds with my current friends. I will focus on that for the moment.
Thanks for your message.

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 July 2023, 9:51 am AEST

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your welcome @louisa694

i am a super shy person to and someone who usually sticks to themselves because they dont know what to say to anyone. i also grew up without friends and being that 'loner' through school that it made it difficult for me to learn more of those skills.

i have been lucky enough to form some connections that are building more into friendships now. my comfort zones were very close together so even speaking to people was difficult for me. i had to keep challanging myself to go out for lunch with a friend or even just make a phone call and ask how they are going sort of thing. sometimes the smallest things can help build confidence

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louisa694Senior Contributor05 July 2023, 8:17 pm AEST

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Hi @outlander

Yeah I will have to try and make a little bit more effort with my friends and with conversations so I can gain some confidence.

I do like socialising but I always feel like the odd one out because I’m soo quiet but I’m now finding out that I’m not the only quiet person.

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tymeModerator05 July 2023, 8:26 pm AEST

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Hey @louisa694 ,

I too used to always feel like the odd one out.

It took me a long time to find myself and find my feet. I'm still not very good with social situations, but I found that when I started using these forums more, I was able to 'practise' what I would say in social situations. The forums have allowed me to then reflect on what I say by looking at how people react.

To this day, I still prefer writing over speaking, but I also understand the importance of speaking when needed.

I also think age and experience has informed how I'm able to interact with people nowadays 🙂

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outlanderSenior Contributor05 July 2023, 9:01 pm AEST

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your definently not alone in being quiet @louisa694 sometimes little steps make all the difference

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