Need help with a complex situation with depression

I concur with MIL meddling and adding her own twists to things. What happens if you don't acknowledge it @Faith-and-Hope and force him into a corner. A friend of mine just went through something similar and this time chose not to be the one to bring it up. He finally did when he realised there was no where to go with it. Maybe worth a try....if you can put up with all the dramatics in the meantime. Sorry you are going through this but it might be another significant crack to be explored at the right time. 💜🤗

He is a master at this game @Former-Member .... but this has been part of our reality for the last seven years .... and I give it little fuel to work with .... I will ignore it and remain aloof as long as possible, and deal with what I can when something actually materialises ....

Par for the course ...

Feeling tired and brain lost capacity to respond but thinking good for you to stay the course and....

Im right beside you 💜🤗

i found this too which I loved

Catch ya tomorrow 💜🤗

Images will take a little while to come through @Former-Member ..... I'll check back to see them.

WH has been sleeping the last couple of hours - anther way to escape interaction, but he is exhausted .... I found out where he walked to and back .... not great two days out from the flu and not fully recovered ... :face_with_rolling_eyes: ... wondering if this will rebound on him.

Sleep well. Glad about your day with girlfriend .... go to see you doing something like that ❣

G'night ❤️💤

Its so hard when generations, cultures and genders collide.

Take care

Oh ... that's a beautiful part of the world .... yes .... lots of photos ❣

Can you still email him on his birthday so he has surprise images from the day anyway when he opens it ? That's one reason why we have "birthday week". Was WH birthday this week and S1 didn't call till day after. D1 txt on the day, then called day after.

Sorry you missed your beach date ... glad you're going to reschedule. Keep at it .... build happy memories into your recovery ....

Me report -

Woke during the night feeling vulnerable myself, and too unsettled to go back to sleep, so picked up iPad, initially to just scout the forums a bit, but ended up posting and on for some time. It took my angst away, and I slept anpgain for a couple more hours.

WH seemed to settle a bit across the rest of the evening last night, around his regimen anyway .... and was polite .... so I thought he might be calming down, but he prickled at me and cold-shouldered my "goodnight", which let me know he was still seething underneath the cool exterior. I just pulled back and was cursory-polite in response ... he had to retrieve his pillows from the bedroom where I had returned them to, and I avoided eye contact, ignored him.

This morning, same again from me as he came in and fossicked for clothes .... I didn't pay attention as to whether it was street clothes or work-out gear. Could hear him coughing again during the night, where mine is all but gone now, so suspect the flu might be rebounding on him and MIL who's cough still sounds nasty, but she has been going out and about and exhausting herself too .... cigarette smoke on the coffee shop probably the worst of it, but it's only a 7deg max at the moment as well, so in and out of the cold air .... ?? Go figure ....

I had determined I would leave WH pillows in the lounge, considering his attitude .... returning them to the bedroom was intended as a gentle reminder of where he should be sleeping .... he surprised me by coming back in and dumping the pillows on the bed - gently - before announcing that he was going for coffee and did I want anything while he was out ? Olive branch. I said no thanks, but asked how he slept .... he said good but looks like 🌵 ! Asked after MIL and whether coffee shop smoke was owing her any good (see what I did there ?) but he hesitated, obviously wanting to say that it's her choice, so I voiced it for him .... but it's an auto-suggestion seed that will play on his mind and he might start refusing to take her .... I can see that he is worried that her cough is not lifting, maybe worsening again.

We might not get to explosion mode yet .... hope not .... it's very wearing ....

Kids are all down with it to differing degrees, but spending a lot of their time sleeping .... ✅

Want to talk about it @Former-Member ? Are you just feeling flat ?

Not sure what I'm feeling @Faith-and-Hope. I'm hoping just tired. Thanks for asking . I don't think I need to talk about anything. I'm just flipping modes A LOT today. 💜🤗