New here - BPD help 😊

Hi @Coffeelover82

Welcome to the forum.

I am relatively new too.

It is good you wrote your concerns and am sure you will get posts.

My only input is about "learning to ignore judgment from others".

Your answer is mainly in your question.

It is something you have to learn. You cannot change others. You can change your attitude to what they say.

Sadly when we open up, many can fix everyone elses problems except their own.

That is why this forum is good. Life experiences.

I rarely open up. Others do not understand. They have so many flippant solutions that change often. No stable ideas.

So be strong. Strong people hurt too.

If you open up, have the mindset they will probably have no good input if they have not lived it.

I stand strong. I ignore the noise. I revert to Sane or Lifeline and the bible as my place of peace

I'm pretty new just be careful who you speak to as people become very judgemental. Esp friends and family, but just always think before you say well I've learnt anyway esp when you don't want things to come out cause it's the way questions are worded at you then you answer and realise after you answer they out did you.

Hey @Coffeelover82 ,

Welcome to the forums!

Please feel free to join the BPD community over at Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script !

See you there.

Hi there.

I'm also really new to these forums but I'm no stranger to the way that BPD affects one's self or the affects on anybody who we get close to.

I'm Twelve years deep into trying my best to survive and pull through into some sort of "normal" life.

I don't have any answers or really any coping strategies, maybe that's why I found myself signing up here?

It sucks that there are other people who know the same demons that I do but I'm always happy to lend an ear to anyone who needs it, isn't that the point of this site though, to be supportive and find support? 🙂

Hi @ErekarYamatori

Thanks for your reply! I completely agree with you. It does suck that others go through it but it does help in a way to be able to connect with people going through the same.

How is your day going?

Yeah it does help with feeling not so isolated and disconnected for way we think and feel.

My day has been alright so far, thank you for asking!

How about your day, has it been okay so far?

@ErekarYamatori that’s good to hear!

My day is going really well so far! I am about to go into a session soon with a counsellor. It’s my first time meeting them so I’m hoping it goes well!

You mentioned you are 12 years into your journey. May I ask your age when you were first diagnosed? I completely respect if you don’t want to talk about it, please just tell me if that’s the case. Promise I won’t be offended!

That's so good, I hope that it goes well for you!

I don't mind talking about it, I was only 17 when the word Borderline first came up while I was in hospital. I learnt the hard way the stigma that's involved and the way that people lump BPD into the "Oh they're super emotional and needy" category. I don't usually tell people irl anymore so it's nice that there's some anonymity here and we can all express what we really think or feel

@ErekarYamatori Thank you. I’m hoping it goes well too. I’ve met with so many professionals and it’s really hard to find one that’s a good fit for me. So far, I have found one amazing person and I see her fortnightly. The person today is someone with lived experience. It’s my first time in a session with a professional with lived experience so I’m feeling very hopeful about it!

I know exactly how you feel. All my life I was referred to as ‘too emotional’

I don’t tell people irl either anymore. I can’t handle the judgement. Plus, no one usually has any knowledge about bpd so they tend to google it and let’s face it… when you google it, it’s mainly negative things that come up!!
did you find that the hospital system helped you much with it?

Oh wow it's such a surreal feeling to be speaking with another human who has the same struggle with they way people react. It's probably more common than anyone of us realises and not everyone would react negatively I'm sure, but once you've felt that burn one too many times it becomes like a show on repeat. One where you know exactly how it ends so it becomes easier to just be as "normal" as you can in a social situation and not let anybody get close enough to be able to know you and open those old scars.

I wish that I could say yes. I've been caught in the infamous revolving door or the Australian Mental Healthcare System literally all of my life. I stopped even trying to reach out for any help with any of the things that I'm going through for a few years. I'm more than sure that there is a way to manage the impact and contain the demons, there has to be righ!?

I've only in the last 9 months started again trying to find something or some way to cope with it all and not only pull through but to really live, to chase that high of life that I once had before September. I have heard that DBT is supposed to be of great help to a lot of people with Borderline and am in the process of trying to set it up for myself