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@tyme

Anyway I said you were innately nice not good. There is a difference

I wonder if you can email to follow up re the scholarship @Oaktree ?

Also, good point about the difference between innately nice and good lol. I never considered that.

@tyme

I think it’s too early to follow up the scholarship. They would have started looking at applications on Monday 4th at the earliest

True that @Oaktree . Give it a few weeks lol.

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@Oaktree , I feel it is a good learning.

In a way, I like some of these challenges, because it allows me to see how much I've grown. I used to fall into a ditch if things like this happened. Nowadays, I work through it.

I was actually impressed how it turned out in terms of the negative person. I realised I was able to stand up and do something about behaviour that has the potential to cause a toxic culture.

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@tymeWhat a great way to take what happened onboard, and use it as a positive. It does make you wonder just why people feel the need to be so toxic. But well done for being such a pro! Gold stars for "pro-ness" 🌟⭐🌟 😁

@MJG017 @Oaktree ,

I feel that in all my roles in the past, doing the work was not the issue. It was managing the interpersonal skills which was the greatest learning.

I feel I've grown so much just knowing that.

I remember we had a peer group chat once on "Moving towards Conflict". I was such an insightful PGC about how conflict can teach us many things.

@tyme

@Oaktree

I know what you mean. I never really had issues doing the work in past jobs either. I guess the conflict was rarely a massive issues for me, mainly because I avoided it, but I do look back and wish that I knew how to handle those interpersonal parts of the jobs better and stood up for myself more when I should have. Not just with differences of opinion and the like, but just being more sociable in general was a really big hurdle for me that I never felt close to comfortable with. I remember when I worked at Myer 20-25 years ago I would go and eat my lunch in the car rather than face going into the staff room where there would be people i didn't know.... or worse... that I did know and would feel pressure to talk to.

That's the thing @MJG017 . I think a lot of the learning is around managing these interpersonal skills as opposed to avoiding it. I know why you'd want to avoid them. At the same time, it may mean your voice is not heard.

I think there needs to be a balance. Enough to get your voice heard, but not too much so that you make more enemies than allies. @Oaktree

Hey @ArraDreaming

I’d like us to keep our communication respectful moving forward. It’s important to me that we both feel comfortable, and I need you to know that I won’t be answering your questions. I hope that you can understand and respect that. Thanks
@tyme

@ArraDreaming

I want to apologise. You probably don’t know where I was coming from. I was thinking about our interactions over the entire time that you have been a member of the forums. As you know we have struggled to get along. Maybe we are oil and water. I was trying to find a constructive way forward with you. My recent dealings with you, the day you got upset with me when I was going mulberry picking as well as your questions to me when I was asking Tyme questions about SANE, have been playing on my mind. I had a psychology session today and I discussed our history. As I said I was trying to improve things. Lately I have been giving you space. I just want things to be normal between us.