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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
Hey all,
I keep losing myself, I recently lost a family member to cancer and had the funeral and have been struggling for a few weeks while grieving and dealing with a few other things in my life,
I just don’t know how to help myself while im stuck in this loop. I have a lot of other stuff on my plate that I’m trying to manage and was just trying to find a space to where I can express it.
im safe
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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
Hey @amber22 @Glisten @Jynx @TideisTurning @Patches59 @Snowie @Shaz51 @Jay5 @Meowmy @Meggle @Jay5 @outlander @TAB @Zoe7 @Bunniekins @Anastasia @Judi9877 @Jacques @hanami -
today is a mess, I’m feeling really lost and like a mistake
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GlistenSenior Contributor
@Fluttershy1 Big hugs 🫂 What have you been doing today?
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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
Had a shower, had a support worker, played Mario kart, support worker left, went to the pet shop and Cole’s, now at home chilling @Glisten - yourself.
I just feel like a mistake
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GlistenSenior Contributor
Why so hard on yourself @Fluttershy1 ?
Just got back from my grandson’s T-ball.
Now I am about to go dumpster diving in my neighbours bins for cans glass and plastic to get cash 💰
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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
I don’t know @Glisten - I’m trying not to be…
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GlistenSenior Contributor
@Fluttershy1 I am more compassionate to other people, than I am to myself. In my past I have high standards for myself and many workplaces would guilt me into doing more. I was a people pleaser and I didn’t know how to say no and set boundaries.
Anxiety runs in my family and seeing my grandchildren in turmoil afraid of making a mistake. I told them scientists have to try to disprove their theories as well as prove them. They make hundreds of mistakes and that’s ok because you discovered a hundred ways not to do something.
Each grandchild has reacted with “Hundreds! Wow!”
Mistakes are what makes us human, there is no shame in that.
Learning is continuous and lifelong. That is a wonderful thing.
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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
Wow!!! @Glisten - interesting information!
I just wanna hide away to be honest
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GlistenSenior Contributor
@Fluttershy1 sometimes you got to hide. I hide because of the amount of energy that it takes to keep trying is huge.
Trying and getting nowhere is frustrating, stressful and depressing.
Asking for help from a system that is over-burdened, has given me nothing but rejection.
The simplest thing can become so complicated. Those days, I tap-out, start again tomorrow.
I have had more help and success from individuals and dumpster-diving.
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Fluttershy1Senior Contributor
@Glisten - I’m having it rough lately….
my emotions are doing my head in
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GlistenSenior Contributor
@Fluttershy1 You must be exhausted.
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