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NEED HELP WITH RAGE!

NEED HELP WITH RAGE!

Ok I'm about to smash something over my bosses head! He is 76 yrs old completely lost his shit and constantly blaming people for things they havent done and this morning it was my turn. I'm getting ridiculed , told I do nothing when he has no proof and something he blamed me for had nothing to do with me but if I try to say anything he just yells at me and thats one of my triggers!

God I have gone for a walk, I have tried to calm down but my rage is just going out of control and if I'm not carfeul by the end of th day I will be out of a job if act out! If I could I would tell him where to shove his fricken job but I'm not in a position to do so. I'm fricken HR and he doesnt believe in HR. I know if I wanted to I could easily take them to unfair dissmissal or bullying etc but I dont need that stress. Just when I get on top of myself he comes back from overseas, he has been away for 1 month and then yesterday the second he came in shit starts - I'm not the only one at my wits end but thats all I care about right now.

Sorry Im just venting trying to get out my rage- grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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Dearest @Change123

your an amazing woman.

Maybe after this hump of silly employers: that you could start a thread of having BPD and speaking a sentence of positive self talk and rewards you can give to yourself ?

I know people with the dehabilitating condition of BPD. Don't know if many know of the positive self talk ?

I'll check it out and get back to you

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Thanks @PeppiPatty& @Heart

@PeppiPatty I'm will add that to my emotional discipline thread, I have been setting my challenges for the day and giving myself rewards, now I dont feel I need the rewards too much as the reward is coping!

But I havent done one on positive self talk, so far its been controlling rage, negative talk, victim talk and staying calm BUT at the moment I'm just taking one emotion at a time so I can achieve something and feel good about it to keep me going. Once I feel more confident I will add a heap together for a day etc.

At the moment my challenges for today is to keep calm and not let work stress me out too much and to keep calm when I get home with all the crap there.

Thanks @Heart I'm calm I think my problem is tiredness but I will get through today.

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Bout' time @Shaz51

Your a person that @Change123 might be able to get some ideas about too.

How are you @Shaz51

I'm having panic attacks because I need to see my only job this week and ......theres so much going on in my little home. I live in public housing and thanx to the local silly billy 60 year old who needs money constantly for his illiciet drug intake: he has turned against me because I told him that I see him and he's taking advantage of my good nature and he's turning all the sweet old ladies against me.

(Groan)

Im drawing, drawing, pictures...doing anything creative do take it out of me.....

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I'lle get back to you @Change123 on your last message....

thinking about you...

I LOVe your positive self talk.....

PP

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Ha ha @PeppiPatty xx

@Change123 and I have been talking on another thread my friend xx

was going to sending you a flower from by garden , but it is too big

Hello @Kurra, @Appleblossom, @Heart

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@Shaz51 & @PeppiPatty

Thanks, the support I get from you guys keeps me going!

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Hi @PeppiPatty

I hope you don't mind, but I removed your posts with all the content from the article you were sharing with @Change123

I found a direct link to the article, which you can find here

Nik

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Thanks so much @NikNik

Dear @Change123

I was thunking that we ....everyone can read a good description of BPD and take it from there. It would be really good if we look at your strengths in this paper.

The most important thing is that you get your home life calm. It's what I'm thinking because you don't go home to these silly billy bosses....

Your home is your castle, your secret haven for just you and your partner. If I didn't have my partner, wif all his condition and then, there's me with my condidtion......we can work through it because we both know what we need to do to stay calm.

Sometimes, my partner is not good. He is very .....hard. He has no idea on say, time. But this is his condidtion not him and we can work with it.

Maybe we can all read it and we can get through it together with your brilliant knowledge that you already have.

PP

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Hello @PeppiPatty,

sorry to hear you had a panic attack yesterday , sending you hugs

Hope you are feeling ok today ?? and how is hubby going xx

Hello @Change123, how are you today xx

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Hi @Shaz51

I think I read somewhere else today a post you wrote about your husband. I hope everything is okay. Did you want to pop over to beer garden (I can see you are already posting in there) or start a new thread about this and keep this thread on topic for Change123?

I'll be in Friday Feast soon too!
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