NEED HELP WITH RAGE!

Thanks @PeppiPatty & @utopia

I'm actually going to discuss this with my partner and try to come up with a strategy for me. Initially avoidance but I know I need to get over this so I will talk to him about making some sort of plan to somehow get me desensitised to it. Ie. getting him to start with to talk a little louder so I get used to this and so and so on. I also think that this might help us together as part of his issue is that he feels he has no control over anything so this is something he will be able to control and might help our relationship as well. Not sure exactly what but I will use my energy after doing my letter to my father.

@PeppiPatty

I'm also an 80's girl but grew up with australian rock music like, cold chisel, angels, divinyls skyhooks etc but my music range is huge it goes from when I'm angry I can listen to Rage against the machine to get some out and then the other side is as mentioned John Butler, Pink floyd, Fleetwood mac also loved Superjesus (listening to them now). I love being able to hear guitar and drums in music. Cant get into all this hop hop stuff that has no real music but there are exceptions I like Hilltop Hoods and used to love Beasite Boys too. So my range is huge dependent on my mood.

Have a good day everyone!

Hi @utopia

I like very much how you write to @Change123

You are so caring to her. I bet this hasn't happened to you and me in the past hey? It's good that we can write to seomone though ...x

Hi @Change123

Im trying to read what your going to do and it sound good......you are reading good in creativity in solving the problem by inclusing the boss in it.

Can you write how it goes?

I saw The Divinals play many years ago, I was only 14!! Like The HillTop Hoods A lot too!!

@utopia

Without acting as I know anything.....

Be open to talking and spending time with people who you trust. Keep very strict boundries up when you do meet someone who is interested in you.

the issues we had when we got together were very difficult, I see a Psychotherapist and he would come with me every week......he would have a 'break and go ourside and we would watch him smoking cigarrettes and talking to each hand. She would say...' Anne, yes, it is good that my neighbours know that I'm a Psychotherapist because they would be very surprised to hearing this over the fence..."

the greatest gift I get from getting older is patience.....

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This is one of my favourite songs........

it's the the imges and the story behind that I make up myself in this song.

Hi @Change123

Its a normal reaction to nearly lose it when someone is yelling in your face. Keeping in mind at the time that you are not being targeted but it is bad behaviour on their part as they are doing that to mostly all the staff will help you to keep your cool at the time (not take it personally). At first I thought it may have been due to age-related disease such as dementia - until you mentioned the wife whom is much younger is the same. They are obviously thus just being plain arrogant and rude, taking out their stressors on their employers because they believe they can get away with it.

All staff members should respectfully tell them "Excuse me!!", when the bosses are being rude to them. No one should ever put up with bad behaviour regardless in they are in a vulnerable position. Damage to self esteem is fair more serious. It's not only bad for the employees own self esteem which no job can replace - it is also bad for those bosses who behaviour badly - if they keep getting away with it they will become worse people and hurt more people. Employees need to stand up to them like in any other bullying scenario. Only way to truly win whether the job is retained or not. Self respect is still intact - the most important thing.

If I were in a position to advise staff this is the advice I would give - don't allow it and speak up for yourselves when abused "but" don't bully back or lose it". Going down to someone's lower level will only make matters worse as would do nothing. Same result. Let the owners know politely that they have no right to speak to others this way. If they sack many people for doing this, for asserting their dignity as human beings, it will not be as stressful a fight as you think in reporting this to the proper authorities as you would not be alone. Encourage others treated the same way to join you. The numbers would speak for themselves and the owners would be the ones who would come under duress (and rightly so). Never underestimate the power of people who speak the truth.

Also explaining to the owners of the business that their poor treatment of staff will result in loss of productivity and profit for their business may make them think twice before treating staff poorly. A successful business consists of happy employees whom are respected and appreciated for their hard work will always put that bit extra in. All the best.