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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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All good @tonys i had to walk 14mins home lol ambos vollies wanted to go home lol

They told me to tell gp to see me tomorrow lol nite 😴

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Hi @TAB just sitting with u as sounds like a rough night

@tonys are u well? Ive had a lot of stress setting up my ndis but have been approved for supports. I am ok ❤️

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Thanks @EternalFlower I ended up sleeping

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Hi there @Oaktree Thankyou for making me laugh. Hurts like hell, but worth every bit. How are you

Meggle. I always enjoy the positive vibes from your garden and I think your humours bolder than mine. Beaut. Hope Hubie's knees are holding up brave man.

I I know I should reply in the Tony's shed, But I grew up with my deaf mute brother

and a violent, drunk old man in a tin shed somewhere out beyond the red dust.. I know its silly, but I just cant go there.

. You were not to know, and built my shed with kindness. Thanks my friend. Maybe one day.

This thread intrigues me because of the deep revelations that tug the curtains like ghosts in their

last dying gasps. They need us to live. We let them live because death would let them off the hook, too easy. Socializing for beginners hey.

Friends come in many forms. Those that are with us at our best and and try to understand when we are at our worst. Being a ASD amongst others with all the ghosts they carry. Well its complex to say the

least. Thankyou @Appleblossom @EternalFlower @TAB @Oaktree @Shaz51 @StuF n all

for your kindness.

The only common denominator for socializing I know for sure, is , there is zero room for abuse. As for the rest, well we all have different eyes, and I'm still on the bottom rung. Without interaction and sometimes direct advice from friends, how does anyone learn.

Anyway. Hey @Oaktree. What ever did happen to that town. It was fun and carefree for a while. Maybe.

it succumbed to our growing pains, but when it comes to fun, I'll go any where you tag me, .. please, not the shed. I too, hope @LeChuck maybe left hospital and found a place of peace, Meggle.

Any way, Thanks for your understanding. Back when I'm weaned of the pain meds a little bit.

I do hope you are all warm safe and happy. Very best wishes. tonys.

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Well do let me know what dock says @TAB Your my dipstick on excesses. If I drink just a shade less than you then I figure my survival chances should be good. Take care my crazy friend.

Thankyou @EternalFlower . Your life is so fragile and still you you take time for a kind word and thought for others. People with that quality are in short supply these days. I know I said it before, but a very special flame lives within you. I really hope the NDIS does what its meant to for you. My thoughts are with you Eternal. A good heart will prevail.

@LeChuck . The universe has many anomalies. If your mind has taken you to a place that transcends the known laws of physics, Maybe it for reasons yet to be understood. As for me, I'm just so pleased that transmission equipment supplied, still enables the odd communications tween your world and mine. A smile in a gravity free vacuum, is still a smile. Please take care of your self Lechuck. One of those stars out there is you. I'll take comfort in that.

Very best to all. tonys mb 1

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Thanks dear @tonys for ur beautiful comments

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yeah things got a bit out of control here @tonys other factors at play too, like state of health and medical conditions, also medication.

Might be time to knock a few things off and try and address a few others here

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Thanks @tonys, I'm glad I've got the communication array back up and running too. Beaming all good things to you! X

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@LeChuck @tonys .. @Hal 2000 jk lol ..

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@LeChuck I have centurion's posted, torches ablaze either side of the runway awaiting your return.

but only when your ready. Nothing worse than pressure when mind needs rests.

I'm just glad your OK LeChuck.. tonys moonbase 1

Nice one @TAB Bet you still sing Daisy.

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