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Help and advice

JJJContributor30 Oct 2016, 4:11 pm AEDT

Help and advice

Hello

I am new to this type of thing, so please bear with me.

For about the last 2.5 years I seem to have been sinking lower into angry moods, pushing people who love or did love me away, becoming a very convincing liar, worrying about my wife leaving but at the same time becoming an attention seeker with another female.

i have been married 29 years, but have been a miserable husband, father and friend and after a potential discretion at the weekend it has finally hit home I have very real problems. I seem to exhibit all the conditions of BPD, but don't know where to start to get help.

i feel very lonely and scared just now.Can anyone out there advise me what I need to do to get help?

Thanks

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JJJContributor01 Nov 2016, 5:42 am AEDT

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I have an appointment with a GP on the 15th to obtain a referral for some help.

i feel very low and very guilty about what I have done and how I have been behaving.

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utopiaSenior Contributor01 Nov 2016, 5:51 am AEDT

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That's great @JJJ. Not so long to wait to get some help. I'm glad you have made the appointment.
One step at a time and you will be okay. You just need to stop worrying about it. Worry doesn't change what happened or the outcome.

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JJJContributor01 Nov 2016, 12:47 pm AEDT

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My married life looks over. I have just received a message from my wife detailing my emotional bullying of my family. I feel sick to the stomach. I do not blame her for not wanting me back, I have been a complete shit all of my married life and probably all of my life. She also details my lies, my infidelity, you name it I have done it.

i am a bully a liar and a cheat, I do not deserve anyone.

i need to get myself help or I will have a terrible future where everyone would be better off without me.

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JJJContributor01 Nov 2016, 1:01 pm AEDT

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I am basically a good person, why do I hurt everyone around me?

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utopiaSenior Contributor01 Nov 2016, 1:20 pm AEDT

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@JJJ. Because you are in pain.

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Fancy_PantsSenior Contributor01 Nov 2016, 1:32 pm AEDT

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Hi @JJJ

the fact that these things build up over a long period of time doesnt make them easier to deal with

you said you need to get help, (not breaching anonymity) do you have an idea about where to go?

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JJJContributor01 Nov 2016, 1:45 pm AEDT

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I have a GP appointment to get a referral on the 15th.

i am not in the country just now, hence the delay.

I feel so low, empty and alone just now.

i think I am a Sociopath, a narcissist, I have BPD everything I read to try and understand why I am like I am leads to these conclusions.

i feel so empty just now

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