Connect with people who understand what you are going through,
seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're
free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.
I decided to start a new thread, my new chapter in my life is going to focus on healing my traumas, building resilience and self-worth and taking the steps of achieving mood stability. I am praying this year will be better than the last. Last year the SI got really intense, was so close to losing hope and I felt like my heart was breaking into a million pieces like shattered glass. It all still feels overwhelming, I have a long way to go on my healing journey, but I think I'm starting to feel a bit more hopeful about the future.
In response to: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
I know trauma can bring a lot of personal growth and that it’s not my fault. Yet, I feel guilty because I couldn’t save myself for marriage.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
BowSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
That was no way your fault. That was taken from you. But I do understand
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
@Bow, it’s heartbreaking thinking about it. I’m sorry you had to go through it too, it’s hard 💖🫂
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
Hi @tyme, feeling deflated. I guess I can only keep trying.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
tymeModerator
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
Don't we all @creative_writer - I included
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
@tyme, I really need to cry but can’t. I think I’ve forgotten how to have a good cry. My heart will feel so much better afterwards, all this trapped pain needs to come out.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
@tyme, there are times when I reach out like tonight and it doesn’t help. I don’t want to sound rude, how do I politely exit conversations. I just found it incredibly invalidating that i didn’t have a place to sit with my emotions but it was all about what I could do to help myself. It can be a bit triggering, I grew up having nobody to talk to and felt shunned for showing uncomfortable emotions. Nobody was there for me when I was SA. It’s just breaking me to feel that over again. I guess it’s too much for most people to handle.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
tymeModerator
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
Sitting with you @creative_writer .
You deserve all the support you can get.
I hear that sometimes it hurts so much that one can no longer cry. Allow your emotions to run free through your poetry.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
creative_writerSenior Contributor
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
@tyme, I do write a few verses sometimes and it does help. I always have poetry even if I can’t express emotions any other way. Maybe I’ve become so used to holding backs tears, that it no longer feels normal and safe to let it all out. I think we do need to teach kids that’s it’s okay to experience big emotions and teach them to self-regulate them.
In response to: Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
tymeModerator
Re: Piecing the shattered glass together
Very true @creative_writer . I believe kids are now taught much more about emotions etc. It is a department of education requirement.
We're improving how you access SANE services, starting with Forums
You’ll soon be able to use one secure login to access all SANE services.
For added security, members are now required to log in with their email address and password - member names are no longer supported for logging in.
If you had a Forums account before 19 May 2026 and haven’t set up your new login yet, you'll be prompted to set up your new secure login when you sign-in.
