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automatic shutdown or disassociation

Change123Senior Contributor25 Oct 2016, 1:16 pm AEDT

automatic shutdown or disassociation

I dont know if any of you experience this with BPD or maybe its the PTSD that causes it. I find when I'm extremely stressed and someone starts to lecture me or yell at me etc I can feel like my brain shutting down and everthing becomes blah blah blah and I'm not really taking anything in and I just feel numb all over. My partner says I get this glazed look in my eye and its always at moments of high stress and he feels then there is no point talking to me as I wont remember it.

Is this just disassociation and how can you stop it from coming on? I understand its probably the brain's self defence mechanism protecting me from harms way but when I'm trying to move forward and stop these knee jerk reactions its hard. I know the PTSD has something to do with it as it comes from childhood, when ever there is yelling or stress its my instant reaction but I want to stop it - any ideas?

Is this the reason why my memory is bad as well? I can remember the most trivial things from years ago but ask me something about yesterday or last week I will struggle to remember. Everytime my partner and I watch a movie on TV I might say this would be good to watch and he would say but we just watched this weeks ago and you didnt like it and I will have no recollection of this at all. Its happened at work once or twice and even at the doctors.

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KurraSenior Contributor15 Nov 2016, 2:09 pm AEDT

Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation

Hi @Former-Member

If you feel that your son is becoming increasingly unwell and may be a danger to you or to himself, please phone the police to explain your fears and ask them to do aa welfare check. This is a standard procedure and is the best way to get help for him now as he obviously is very angry with you at the moment.
Take care and look for the book later when you've had a chance to calm down a bit.
Hugzzz 💕 🎶

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Unknown userMember15 Nov 2016, 5:33 pm AEDT

Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation

Hello sorry I don't even know who has sent this, everything is getting very confusing for me, I have had to stop looking at sane site because I cant find stuff from before and I all of a sudden keep finding posts from people with schizophrenia where when I search for that I couldn't find anything, it must be karma

My son has not got help - he was detained in public hospital and now discharge living in a house with people I don't know. I think I was supposed to go down today to help him get this flat to rent but I could not get out of him why I was going because all the other stuff happened. He has also said It will be my problem if he doesn't get the flat.

He doesn't believe that he is ill and is angry with me because I am and is blaming me for giving him mental illness which doesn't make sense anyway if he doesn't believe it.

Now I am ranting and sounding like him

I cant cope with him at the moment, my husband knows this too, but if I don't help him he has noone else. He has been to his nonna's who is in her 80's and she is frightened of him even though she loves him. His dad said to me that he might have to ring the police again and I said no that would make things worse.

So I am going to see if I can find a phone number to ring to find out how to help people with schizophrenia.

i managed to get another appointment with psychiatrist and havetalked through what happened today and some ideas for when i see son tomorrow.

im sorry that i have gone on about my stuff on this thread because it really is not about the subject. i just lost the plot earlier. so perhaps if it needs to be moved elsewhere so that I dont offend anyone or minimise the awful situations spoken about in other posts.

im floundering around on this site and probably need some time out to quietly look at what i should be doing when i feel that i have calmed down.

Thankyou for answering

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor15 Nov 2016, 5:43 pm AEDT

Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation

It took me a while to understand the sane site @Former-Member and I searched around it pretty thoroughly.

Take care of you and when you are able, take care of your son. Thats all anyone can do.

If the site sends you too much and it overwhelms you .. you can limit the subscriptions. Personally I set mine on one email per week, so that I can look over it when I am in the best mindset for it.

Dont mistake computer algorithms for karma .. or at least I dont believe that is helpful ..

Go gently ... with you

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