Facing Christmas and nye alone

Yes do it @Historylover I feel so much better within myself exercising. I take a supp which is good for CFS so I'm no longer fatigued.

My friend got me into astrology. She studied under someone locally. It involves a lot of mathematics if you want to cast a chart from scratch but many astrologers are now saying it doesn't matter now we have computer software to do it for us and interpretation is mainly the key!

So I will join an online group yearly membership and attend workshops for either free or heavily discounted price. I want to take my astrology further. I'm pleased I've found something additional to open my mind

I'm pleased you've found such an interest too, @Former-Member. We all need a blend of physical and mental activities if we can find them to suit our needs and interests. Our days need to be full, not wasted. My walk and run were exhilarating. I've been promising myself to get back to it when my feet improve, but I don't want to maintain this injury. Our feet are so important. Great that there is so much software available for your astrology. Getting familiar with all these things is half the battle! It can be mind-boggling—especially when we have no-one to ask for help. At least there's google and Youtube!

I just went to my town's Christmas parade. I thought I might be OK. I b left early because I was feeling so overwhelmed. I kept seeing grandmothers with their grandchildren. I am pleased that I stayed fir a while. I feel that if I practise that it may get easier.

That's a very impressive way of seeing it @Pippijanet - well done 🙂

Thank you. It seems that when my reality and identity changed so much that through the grief I need to practise a new reality. It will take a long while to reach some level of more normal function. However it is an improvement from wanting to not function at all.

It is difficult when our usualy celebrations are taken from us along with those who used to celebrate with us. I understand what you are experiencing. Fishing sounds good!

My family has been estranged for a long time, @Pippijanet. It will always hurt because I, too, have been the family scapegoat, blamed for everything including things I hadn't done. The most hurtful thing I do to myself is to allow myself to hope something will work itself out, but it won't. Perhaps yours will be different. Many families reconcile.

I watch 'Long Lost Families' every day. It warms my heart to see families lost and found, who have spent their lives yearning for their missing family. I enjoy their happiness vicariously. Mine will never reconcile.

I hope you're doing alright. I had a happy childhood so xmas cheerfulness, as we go about, doesn't sadden me. It just reminds me of the time when my birth family was a unit, and life's trials and tribulations were as yet unknown. I remember too, piling gifts under the tree for my own children, and their joy at opening their presents. My marriage was never happy though.

Take care of yourself @Pippijanet. Do whatever you need to get yourself through this time. You're not alone in this situation. Many people do not celebrate the day and many others have no-one to celebrate it with. Don't let it get you down or they will win.

I don't know what else to say. I hope you are doing alright. There's always this forum to turn to whenever you need—on xmas day, too.

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Take care.

@PippijanetHi there, your experience sound quite similar to mine and I imagine with an ex like that, many others as well. It is unfair when people do that and we have no way of explaining and being listened.

I am going to drop into the Share a cuppa forum on Christmas Day and NYE with the hope of reducing the loneliness and sadness by even 1%.

@BobPand @Anna223 this time can feel so lonely. I haven't wanted to leave my house for the past few days in fear of seeing "happy families" out and about which increases my sadness.

Hopefully we will catch up online and feel like we are not quite so alone.

Hi @Hope0011

I think it's a great idea for you to join the online social events. This time of the year is so tough for so many but this little community is one solution to being alone on Christmas and New Year's. I hope you find some comfort in that.

Sending hugs

Hanami

Thanks @hanami