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I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.
Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.
Intrusive thoughts can be really challenging to deal with and it sounds like you have been practicing some positive thinking to overcome them. This is something I used to overcome and over time it has worked well for me. Overthinking the positive things that happen to you fills your mind with these thoughts rather than the negative. I also write down the positive things in the Notes on my phone too and refer to them to remind me when I'm feeling overwhelmed.
Just some thoughts from me that work for me!
Sitting with you in your thoughts.
Take care
RiverSeal
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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@Kyle1, having this information reminds you that once you heal, your body will start feeling better. Healing takes time, you can’t release it all in one go. Take the time you need
@Birdofparadise8, I know the thoughts are not true, but my emotions are very stubborn. Things have been rough, the agitation has settled but I just feel so exhausted now. It’s exhausting fighting off thoughts, and I’m getting SH urges, but I can’t give in, it’s been a while since I’ve been clean. I think trauma is what drives the SH urges
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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Is there anyway you can distract yourself @creative_writer?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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@Birdofparadise8, I have uni assignment to work on. I just hope I can push away the thoughts for now instead of the past taking over my mind
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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Yeah, same I have a few assignments to do @creative_writer.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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@Birdofparadise8, I hope the assignments go well.
I think I am in this difficult position. One side of me (the older wiser me) embraces the trauma and wants to be a stronger and wiser person as a result. This part also wants to be able to help others. The other part of me is like a hurt vulnerable child who refuses to make peace
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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Yeah, thank you I've done meal prep as well.
Maybe embrace both @creative_writer?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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@Birdofparadise8, what are you having for dinner today?
Only problem with embracing both is, that they are both in conflict with each other. You can’t let go and grow into a more resilient person if another part of you wants to hold the pain
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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I’m have Chinese bbq pork stir fry @creative_writer
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