Not Coping

Hi @Birdofparadise8 @Shaz51

I hope you both have had a good day.

Hope you are feeling ok @Birdofparadise8. Sorry for bailing on you last night.

Hope you and Mr @Shaz51 are doing ok

Hi @Captain24

Not that great tonight sorry to say, but oh well.

Though the day was okay I had my chat with my Aunt and did some study for my exam on Thursday. I also didn’t get to do my Chem on today the teacher forgot to upload it. So now I’ve prepared for it and everything. Hopefully I can do it on the weekend as I’m busy the rest of this week and next week with work.

I hope your feeling better now and don’t worry about it. You need to take care of yourself first.

I’m sorry you don’t feel good. @Birdofparadise8

I hope the chat with your aunt was good. That’s a bugger about your Chem exam. At least you’re prepared though! Hopefully if the teacher messed up they can work with you for a time that suits.

Im pretty disappointed to feel so low. I did keep myself distracted most of the day. Now not so much though.

Pixie had a good day though. I babysat her boyfriend for the afternoon. They haven’t seen each other for about 8 weeks.

Yeah we can be low together tonight then. I’m trying to distract myself so I don’t self harm I’ve already done that today and probably wouldn’t be a good idea to do it again. @Captain24

aww @Captain24 ❤️ and @Birdofparadise8 ❤️

Big day. I'm sorry you're sitting with these feelings. I've had thoughts of self harm for most of my life. It sucks. And I know plenty of others here do too. We're sitting with you.

Are there ways that you try to ride the wave of those thoughts? (For me, it's kind of like a wave I need to ride). It sounds like you really know your boundaries ❤️

I thought I'd also share a few resources for you to check-out which other members have found useful

• How to post safely about self harm: A guide
• Self Harm Awareness Month- March 2022 which includes alternatives to self-harm
• This cool app that I use to help me ride the wave called Calm Harm

Thank you @Former-Member

Not very fun at all. I’m not really sure I do try to use like ice or a rubber band on my wrist so that can help a bit but sometimes the urge gets to much if you get what I mean.

Sorry did I mention something I should not have?

@Birdofparadise8 I know the feeling ❤️

You didn't mention anything wrong! I'm moderating tonight and noticed you were discussing this topic. So thought I'd just share some extra info on how we can maintain safety on the forums for others, talk about it in line with guidelines and also in a way to let moderators know if you're feeling safe (cos we have a duty of care towards you!)

All of which you've done! ❤️

But that post is really awesome - I've found it useful for myself too xxx

And yes @Birdofparadise8, those are strategies I use too ❤️

Yeah okay thank you for letting me know about that. @Former-Member

The self harm urge is really hard to break. @Birdofparadise8. What can you do tonight to redirect your thoughts

Now that I’ve stopped for the day I have the thoughts but I’m still able to let them float by. At my worst I SH daily then I tried to resist the urge. I’d go 2 or 3 days without it. Finally I got to the stage where I stopped. I do have other urges now though. I need to keep being distracted but the only thing left to do is hang the Christmas lights on the roof. I don’t think that’s a really good idea in the dark!

Thanks @Former-Member.