Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 I don't know anyone, anyone who doesn't deserve happiness. Which might be contentious cos there are some uhh... pretty shite people in this world. However, I feel like if they were happy, they probably wouldn't be shite.

And in my experience, the people who deserve happiness most of all are the ones who truly believe they don't. Hey that's you! 😉💜🤗

Yeah I think I need to work on my self worth and self esteem it’s in the toilet it’s non existent @creative_writer.

I think it will take me a long time to believe I deserve to be happy and worthy let alone not a burden to people @Jynx. Life is just sucky that way.

I does take time @Birdofparadise8 and a LOTTA hard work. But it's worth it.

Yeah maybe one day. I need to work on being safe and stuff first @Jynx.

Yeah for sure @Birdofparadise8 one step at a time. Dip a toe into stuff, and retreat to safety. Each time gets a lil easier. And we're beside you along the way, as long as you need us 💜

Yes @Jynx

I just need something to go my way someday. It seems to be going wrong with everything I do. I’m just always sad and feel like giving up everyday it’s so exhausting. Why does my past have to make me into my own bully it’s awful.

It is awful @Birdofparadise8 I totally get you. I think something that helped me greatly is to reframe it - to remember that our brains are wired for survival in every single way. Sometimes, this backfires. Sometimes, things that saved us in the past, become our current pains. Things like self-harm, or self-isolation, or self-sabotage, are often results of having had to use those things to survive once upon a time. Then the brain says 'Oh! I know this one. When pain occurs, one time I reached out and didn't feel heard and that hurt. So now, when pain occurs, brain says 'must isolate, because reaching out hurts', even though reaching out doesn't usually hurt - it's really what is needed.

Maybe something to explore - memory rescripting. Taking those painful things we'd rather avoid, or faulty coping tools, and changing/rewriting the narrative around them. Here is a (very dry) journal article about it - maybe read it when you're not feeling super distressed, so you can process it better 😉

Okay I will have a look at it maybe when I’m off next week recovering from getting my wisdom teeth out.

I don’t like that my brain is in survival mode it’s annoying.

It sucks when people don’t listen or understand @Jynx.

May I just ask how long your on for tonight if we can chat a bit longer?

Oof, ouch @Birdofparadise8 wisdom teeth removal is gnarly. I wish you a speedy recovery.

I'm around until 10pm, so very happy to keep chatting 😁