Not Coping

I am soooo glad you are asking BPD-related questions. This is totally up my alley 🙂 @Birdofparadise8

When it comes to attachment issues, it also refers to lack of attachment. That is, having difficulties making, having or keeping close relationships. It can also manifest itself when there is one main person you talk to and if they don't respond, you feel very hurt or upset.

So in terms of 'attachment' issues, it relates to difficulties in making and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships.

By all means, I'm not a doctor. This is all through experience with the people I have seen and worked with.

Mmm okay is could that be then why I’m upset with my cousin setting boundaries then do you think? So it could be me not having as many friends as well then?

I’ve also been doing some research on mood swings with BPD I just don’t seem to have them and I feel my mood is just depressed anyway.

Thank you @tyme

Perhaps BPD has had a bearing on how you feel about your cousin.. and maybe in terms of friendships as well? @Birdofparadise8 It can certainly be a possibility....but remember, even people with BPD don't all present the same. I believe you only need 5 of the 9 BPD traits to be diagnosed with BPD. You don't need all 9.

By the way. I am certainly NOT saying you have BPD. It's not my place to say.

As for mood swings, I'm not sure if you'd call them mood swings. People have been placed on mood stabilisers which have not helped too much because with BPD, i believe it is more about emotional dysregulation. That is, people with BPD are so sensitive to what is happening in their environment, that when something pleasant happens, they feel over the moon; and conversely, when something negative happens, they end up very very low indeed.

Also, many with BPD have comorbid conditions such as depression, anxiety. These can also contribute to some of these feelings.

All your questions are valid. It would be good to get your psych's opinion too. I'm only an expert through experience. They are experts by profession 🙂

I'm sorry @Birdofparadise8 - I had a much longer post, but it got deleted.... I will write more tomorrow.

Ok thank you for that @tyme.

Hopefully I can get some more answers today.

Yeah I’m not sure about my cousin it could be but it’s not like I feel totally abandoned from her.

Hey @Birdofparadise8 I'm glad to see tyme responded to you as they know a lot about this. I don't know much about it myself but I have found this website helpful to assist me to understand some things a little better. Good luck with it all. I hope you get some answers 💝

Thank you for that @Paperdaisy.

How did today's appointment go @Birdofparadise8 ?

He hasn’t called me yet. I think he forgot. I’ve been waiting all day, but there still is a few hours left to call I guess @tyme.

Was it an appointment time that was made? @Birdofparadise8 ? I wonder if you can call him to follow-up?

In the meantime, I'm also curious to know... how do/would you feel if he DID 'forget'? (btw, I'm not saying he has forgotten)

No he just said last week he would call me today. I don’t have his phone number so I can’t like ask him. I do have his email but he said I have to email through the admin so not sure if he would get it. I could send him an email to his utas one I guess but I just don’t want to take up his time and not sure he would like it as he said to send it to the admin one I may just send them an email and they might pass it onto him @tyme.

I was looking forward to the chat I have really needed it but if he doesn’t call I’ll just hope we can chat next week.