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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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mmm, okay @creative_writer not really sure about that.

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tymeModerator

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Forgiveness is something you do for yourself @Birdofparadise8 . These bullies are living their life, probably having no care or remembrance of what they did.

For me, forgiving people was about considering they did what they did and somehow, it will come back to bite them sooner or later. It doesn't mean that they should have done it, but it gives me closure.

Even for my parents. I have learnt they did so much damage to my upbringing. Yet I always consider they did their best and they didn't know any better. I don't blame them for hurting me. I don't blame them that I have suffered the way I have because of what I thought was 'normal'.

For others, I believe they are 'sick'. What they did was wrong. Yet I have to accept that this has happened and allow myself to live the life I deserve.

If anything, bullies are probably so happy to know that you are still traumatised by their actions - that they had the 'power' to bully you. Are you going to give them that satisfaction?

You deserve better.

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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He’s 13 and I will probably walk more than I run @tyme

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tymeModerator

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And that's okay @Eve7 - just do what you can. I'll be with you in spirit 🙂

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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They definitely won't even be thinking of me.

Well, I must be giving them that satisfaction then. Just another thing I need to work on. I need to process it I guess first @tyme

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tymeModerator

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It's not an overnight thing @Birdofparadise8 . Give yourself time to work on it.

Just remember, forgiveness is for yourself, not them.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah okay @tyme

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tymeModerator

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Go slow to go far @Birdofparadise8 . Take your time.

As I said, I'm here to step you through.

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tymeModerator

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What are you doing tonight @Birdofparadise8 ? Watching Netflix? Reading?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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I think I just need to work on the depression first and my suicidal thoughts @tyme

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