Not Coping

Just have a look at the trailer and see what you think. They can be a little at times, I guess @ArraDreaming

It’s no worries at all @Birdofparadise8 🙂

I think it might be better to have a chat with your psych about that dearest - their perspective would be much wiser than mine I feel 🙂

however, I think it might be a good idea to write down those feelings, and why you think they are there, and then put them in order of importance, to ask your psych?

I’m happy to give you an explanation of progress IBD observed, which - you’re right - is around the new awareness and new actions you’ve learned to implement around attachment 🙂

it may not seem like much, but it’s a really positive step towards foundations to building self-reliance and self-soothing. And I think even though it’s really hard right now, you’re taking on this huge area of growth despite it being scary and overwhelming - something for which I am so proud of you for doing 🌺🙂

and please don’t worry about taking time to process things - you have heaps going on, and so it’s totally understandable that brain bandwidth is a little full at the moment… the very same thing happens to most people too! ☺️

Okay, sure thing. I still think you have a great perspective on things.

The bit about the pool. What else did I mention?

What does IBD observed mean?

Oh, the attachment stuff. My psych wants to talk more about that on Wednesday as well.

Gosh, and I'll have another couple of things to mention. How do I work out what's more important and the hour isn't very long to get through all these.

I'm unsure where the growth is in building self-reliance and self-soothing.

I can't do either. I literally said I rely on others, which isn't self-soothing.

Thanks @Former-Member

I wish we had met earlier when you joined.

That's okay @ArraDreaming

What type do you like? Romance, comedy, sci-fi, drama, action, crime.

Oh, so you like reality tv @ArraDreaming

Thanks @Birdofparadise8 , I really appreciate that 🙂

Yes, I think also the feelings around the pool; how it was feeling when you came to that description..I think that is something that could be well discussed with your psych 🙂

Oh - I’m so sorry! That is a typo and should have said ‘I’ve’ instead of ‘IBD’ - sorry I don’t check before I posted! (By the way, IBD stands for inflammatory bowel disease - I type it a lot, so my phone gets overly enthusiastic with autocorrect at times! 🤭)

I think it’ll be good to keep discussing attachment with your psych, and even how this evenings chats are different to early last week - I feel that you have better coping skills in place, since then 🙂

Yes, it’s a challenge to decide on priorities for discussion with your psych - this is where I was thinking writing it down and then reviewing later might be helpful ..what do you think?

I do understand it’s difficult to see where the growth in self reliance and self soothing is happening - still early days, and it’s at times harder to see our own changes compared to others seeing them. I feel you’re starting to develop those skills 🙂

Relying on others while developing skills is what I’d imagine would be happening birdofparadise8; it takes time xx

I think you’re doing well 🙂

small steps, but things look like they’re heading in the right direction! Nothing has to be perfect; the only thing that matters is the steps towards your goals 🙂