Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 preoccupied/anxious attachment style can also be the result of being raised in a way where some, but not all, of your emotional needs are being met by your primary caregiver(s). Highly recommend a series of podcasts that Therapists Uncensored did about attachment theory, helped me understand my own preoccupied attachment style way better - go to this page, attachment stuff starts with episode 59 but episode 60 is about preoccupied style.

I think a lot more exploration could indeed be helpful to understand what’s happening @Birdofparadise8 🙂💜

the link from @Jynx looks really interesting, will go have a look there too 🌺🙂 thanks Jynx 🙌🏻🙂

Hello @Glisten Only just got back from my trip. Mate, So what's the go with your mouth piece. Hope you can give me a frame work to hang some clothes and a face on it and get a handle on what we are dealing with here. I hope its a "she" or at the very least an op shop cloaked street fighter, "he" Best would be a mix. The kid that that was bullied all their life and now, lives their revenge on the whole world, through their clientele. Picking a good lawyer is more important than the husband your going to want them to eat. . . If it does not feel exactly right.. Walk out and continue the search.

They have a work load to get through. Well they can go rush someone else's case . You get one crack at this mate. For now . . . pour a frosted glass, draw a picture in your head of the perfect lawyer,

and try and relax.. Tomorrow. We just seek a little harder..

I can't do eye contact well, but you can.. When I want to get a point across, I lean right into their

personal space, sear my eye contact into the persons soul, and very slowly tell them the outcome they are going to deliver at my feet. . ! We will hopefully get into it later. I really want you to have a win S G... You've blead long enough for one.. Your friend Hucklebury.. tns

Hi @Oaktree @Bunniekins @ENKELI @Former-Member @Former-Member @StuF @TAB and everyone.. Just got to the mail box .. I do hope you all had a little win somewhere in your day.

Back soon..

Howdy @tonys

I've been away too, got very behind on threads...have given up catching up!

I hope you are well

KHL said if I always reach out to people, I would be less likely to have abandonment or rejection issues.

I wouldn't try to reach out if I fear them. @Jynx @Former-Member @Former-Member

Also

Labelling experience in social situations as abandonment or rejection and questioning if it’s social anxiety.

Can social anxiety cause feelings of rejection?

Labeling might lead to a spiral.

She said not to make "rejection a big thing" labelled (she said I made it a big focus of the call about the rejection and abandonment if I have it)

I felt rejected. Notice feelings and how they change.

I'll reply to the others in a minute. I'm just writing about the things she mentioned.

This is her thoughts.

I'm really confused now @creative_writer

With what KHL has said as well.

I do worry but it's mostly on here, RO, I guess friend, but I don't have many.

Does it count on here as well?

I'll have a look at that link @Jynx thank you.

I'm so confused @Former-Member

I don't know what to think KHL said.

Take your time @Birdofparadise8 , give yourself freedom to see how things sit alongside you if they’re a bit confusing, and come back to it later dearest.
Give yourself some space to have a rest 🌺🙂

Are you talking about the bit KHL said @creative_writer