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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Okay @Former-Member

I'm sorry by the way.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Which bit? I said a few emotions and stuff.

I guess I worry people will reject me and leave me. So, as you say, attach to them, then they can't leave, so to speak.

Oh I haven;t noticed anything.

What's your attachment style?

Let me take a quiz and see what I get.

@creative_writer @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember

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Yes it does wok well for when times are busy, that’s for sure @creative_writer 🙂🌺

yes having a rest sounds good, especially while having flashbacks 💜🌺

I haven’t been able to completely stop having flashbacks, however I tend to have less impact from them as time has gone by, for sure 🙂💜

I love tea - not much coffee here 😉

chamomile, anything with berries, and regular English breakfast are the ones I usually enjoy 🙂🌺

do you have a favourite? 🙂

just to kindly let you know dearest I think I’ll be heading to bed after some dinner, as I’m a bit tired today 🙂 so I’ll catch you next time, ok? 🌺🙂💜🤗

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Unknown userMember

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Hey @Birdofparadise8 🌺🙂

can I kindly ask what you’re saying sorry for, please? 🙂

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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From my post below, I thought you might have been reading about it.

I'm really sorry. it's just how I feel. I feel really bad that I feel this way.

I have some big issues here. I know you're tired.

@Former-Member

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 I lean more towards avoidant.

@Former-Member I like the floral ones like endota camomile mixed ones and I also love my matcha. My taste is expensive. I hope you rest up and sleep well tonight 💖🫂

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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What does it mean to be anxious/preoccupied?

The anxious/preoccupied attachment style is one of the three insecure forms of attachment (anxious, avoidant, and disorganized).

The anxious/preoccupied attachment style is characterized by:

  • An inconsistent formative period which leads to low self-esteem and low self worth.
  • Constant need for external validation and reassurance from others in an attempt to prove themselves worthy of love and affection.
  • Fear of rejection and criticism. May become highly upset at any form of disapproval.
  • Self-sacrifice and putting the needs of others first.
  • Struggles with being single or alone for periods of time. Relationships and intimacy are strongly connected with an anxious attacher’s feelings of self-worth, therefore they may crave attention and try to impress others in an attempt to get it.
  • Attentiveness to loved ones – almost to a fault. Others may end up taking advantage of this kind and generous nature because of this trait.

Score Mother/CG1: Anxiety: 2 | Avoidance: 4.83

Score Father/CG2: Anxiety: 1.33 | Avoidance: 5.33

Score Partner: Anxiety: 5 | Avoidance: 2.33

Score General: Anxiety: 5.00 | Avoidance: 3.00

What does this graph mean?
@creative_writer I did the quiz.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Ah okay that's why I love being on here @creative_writer

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Unknown userMember

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Please don’t ever think I will judge you @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺

there’s nothing that would make me ever do that, ok?
you’re totally free to express whatever you need to, and that includes what is concerning you, here 🙂

please gently remember: you’re not responsible for how anyone else feels about you expressing how you feel 💜🌺🙂

I haven’t read any other posts besides the ones you’ve tagged me in dearest - if you want to tag me, please do so, and I’ll get back to you tomorrow if that’s alright sweetheart 🫂🌺☺️💜

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Thank you @Former-Member

I wrote your name but didn't tag you. I was worried not only you but others would get angry at me.

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