Not Coping

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@Birdofparadise8 wrote:

Did you see a post about accepting what happened with RO?

@Jynx did you see it as well? @Snowie gave some suggestions.

I feel like it's all impossible. I want it to be over the eight weeks that have passed. I just don't see how this is in my best interest. I'm way worse off because of it.

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Nah didn't see it hun - but I will say that we can't choose what happens to us, only how we respond. Our brains are magnificent story-tellers, and we can often get pulled into believing that our thoughts are the truth, and forget that we have the power to change our thoughts, our narrative, and thus, our truth. If you have the thought that you're way worse off, and choose to believe it, then yeah you're gonna be worse off. Or you can practice acceptance, say to yourself 'this isn't something I have the ability to control, so I am going to focus my energy elsewhere', and get on with your day. Otherwise, you're letting someone else, or letting this situation, have power over you. Why not say 'F that, I'm not going to allow RO's actions decide how I feel' and go do something that makes you happy?

when I got banned from there and here carrying on got me nowhere except angry afterwards at myself for beehavimg like a total jerk

But I have been worse off ever since the email @Jynx

I've broken down quite a number of times, sobbing over it.

I know I can't control it.

It really does make me angry. I talked through what happened with my regular at KHL, and she agreed that what I said in the emails wasn't rude, even though they gave a list of how I've been behaving. They just go from zero to 100.

Mmm, I guess so.

It's just like earlier today. I was here talking to people, and then they left. Then someone else came on for a quick hello and then left. I was feeling upset at that time, and I was like, great, now what can I do? Oh go onto RO oh wait I can't and then I was even so much more upset.

Are you saying I'm acting like a jerk @ArraDreaming?

Right okay @ArraDreaming

Sorry.

I am trying, but it's just so hard.

You know me. I take forever to get over things. It will be even harder when I have emotions and want to chat with other members on there. Then, I'll keep reminding myself about it every single time.

It was more just that particular moment. If at other times I'm okay, then it's no big deal.

It was more the fact I thought to go on there, but I couldn't @ArraDreaming