@Birdofparadise8 you seem to be justifying the behaviour however regardless of different schools, teachers/heads not knowing what to do those in charge have a duty of care and if you are not sure what to do, you find out.
No, I am not a violent person either, I just wanted to end with something that might make you smile. Violence is never okay. But nor is bullying.
I know you don't feel safe or secure, or even comfort and that's why you're in pain. I was lucky because the times I got bullied at school my mum was like a mama bear and she went to the school to demand what they were going to do about it. When that failed she called the 2 girls who were bullying me into our house and made them stand in the middle of the lounge room while she told them off. I was scared witless, hiding in the kitchen but then she made me come out and we all had to shake hands. It worked, they never bullied me again.
My bullying was when I became an adult and developed anxiety. Like you I was targeted at several different workplaces and no one would stand up for me either. I ended up losing my job or being forced to resign.
I wish there was a magic remedy that cured those anxious feelings and the need to cry and feel unsafe.
I think you are very brave to move to a whole other state to study. You are standing on your own 2 feet, studying and finding your way around life. But you are also like that frightened little school girl who is just trembling, waiting for the next hammer to fall.
I am so sorry sweetie, I keep you in my prayers each night (I hope that's okay, some people are uncomfortable with me saying that so let me know if you'd prefer I didn't) and I often wonder how you're coping.
And yes, I constantly ask God why He allows these things to happen to innocent people. He hasn't answered me yet.
Back to the original question, when my friend and her husband split up I agreed to help her out. We ended up moving in together and the public school the kids were going to was pretty shady. My Goddaughter was bullying the other kids because she was being bullied also, one of the boys would constantly grope the girls privates and the principal (after the kids had left thankfully) was jailed for paedophilia.
Because ex friend was working part time and getting centrelink as well I agreed to pay for the kids to go to a private school in lieu of paying rent. The kids and I got along really well until my Goddaughter reached her teens and she turned into a complete monster. She stole from me, expected me to buy her expensive things (part of it was her dad's girlfriends' influence so I don't totally blame her) and then would tell me things like "you can't keep a job, you'll lose it again like you did last time" or "I wish a bus would run you over." Then of course she told me to F off. I told her mother and she did nothing.
Meanwhile my Godson was the opposite. His mother told me I was responsible for looking after him because she couldn't bond with him. I was the one who helped with his homework, played with him, watched movies with him etc etc. He was jealous of his sister because she got all of their mums' attention so I made sure I paid special attention to him and did things with him. One time her brought home a contract from school and it stated that if he ever needed help he would go to the following 5 people - He listed police, principal, me, his dad and teacher. He had put me before his own father and didn't even include his mother.
When I told him that his mum and sister wanted me to move out he burst in to tears and said he didn't want me to go. Unfortunately his mother and sister ganged up on him like they always did and he finally said maybe it would be okay if I moved out but only if he got to see me regularly. I moved out in June 2022 and aside from a phone call on his birthday I haven't seen or heard from him since.
Aside from paying their school fees I paid for the internet, Foxtel, groceries and gave their mother a minimum of $100 a week to help out. Once we had all left the house I asked for my bond to be returned and the mother said no. I referred her to a debt collector and she got her ex husbands' girlfriend (who she hates) to email me and tell me I was not going to get any money and if they had to they would make up a story to prove she didn't owe me. I also bought her a vacuum cleaner, dishwasher, fridge, kettle and heater because she was too poor to buy those things. She would get paid and then spend all her money on cigarettes, junk food and non-essential stuff because she believed she deserved a treat every so often. Every so often? Yeah right, it was every week.
I am feeling better today, I'm more angry than hurt and sad now but compared to what you're going through it's really not a huge thing.
Do you have a diffuser? I use bergamot oil as it acts as a calmative. I'm using a bergamot and Patchouli blend at the moment - it's actually candle oil (I make candles on the side 😁) but it smells so divine I think I'll have to buy more.
Oh and as of today I OWN MY CAR!!!!! 🚙🎉🎊
