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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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tymeModerator

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Actually, to be honest, it wouldn't bother me that people didn't text of message me for 8 years. Nor would I be concerned that people don't respond to me here @Birdofparadise8

I'm sorry these things affect you so much. You are welcome to share.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Oh, okay well, you're lucky then @tyme

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Is it a bad thing that I do @tyme

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tymeModerator

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In moderation - no @Birdofparadise8

But when one's mind keeps thinking this way and that people must respond, then yes, it becomes unhealthy.

I'm being honest when i say that it wouldn't bother me that people don't get back to me. I feel, why should my sanity and contentment be dependent on others and their actions?

Anyway, that's just me.

I'm off now. Hopefully you can speak to you psych and get their perspective on it.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Right okay @tyme

I see him on Friday, so I'll discuss it then.

Have a good night.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8, everyone is individual. Healthy relationships are when people are not too dependent or too hyper-independent. Striking that balance is key. You don’t need to please everyone, just go with those who you click with. Don’t take offence when I say this, I do find sometimes when you don’t give people the space they need, they withdraw. I’m not saying this is happening with us, but I’ve had times when my mum didn’t give me enough space I basically withdrew

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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How do I know if I'm not giving people enough space if no one says anything? @creative_writer

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8, sometimes people don’t directly say they need space. People may take a while to get back to you and that’s okay. Sometimes I think up my own responses and often read up messages way before I get to responding to them.

As @tyme said, a lot of work needs to be done. It’s worth bringing questions to your psych.

I will sleep now. Good night 🙂

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Oh, okay, sure thing.

Yeah, same I'm falling asleep too. Good night @tyme

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Hi @creative_writer @Snowie @Shaz51 @Blackbird11 @ENKELI

How is everyone doing today?

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