Not Coping

Yeah, I'll see if he wants to do anything else @outlander

He was in Gippsland then, so I couldn't do anything with him, seeing I'm in Melbourne. It's like three to four hours away.

I guess I could have tried to, but I was sobbing as something had just happened.

Are you referring to what happened with @ENKELI? They didn't know how to answer my question about the validation from psych and needed to set that aside to . I asked them that question from what they shared, but as they couldn't answer it, I asked @RiverSeal what they thought.

Because I was confused about why I shouldn't let my psych validate people not messaging me.

One thing, though, I was telling my psych that, and he was validating it about how he messages me.

Why would he do that if I need to not let it upset me?

This is what we were talking about @outlander

Enkeli didn't know how to answer that, so I asked @RiverSeal.

Why are you saying that this is negative?

re your validation. i see it here a fair bit. a couple of members will comment here and try and empathize with you, share their experiences to try and guide you through whatever the struggle your reaching out for but when you dont get the answer you want you seek it out from other members until you reach that validation that things are as bad as what you feel they are.

What if things are really as bad as I say they are?

Right, okay, sure thing @outlander

I don't always talk about how bad things were a few weeks ago; I probably didn't talk about it as much as I do now. I'm not sure if you are aware, but my mood stabiliser is below the therapeutic range, so it's not working correctly, meaning it's probably a main component as to why I'm struggling so much at the moment. I'm not a self-centred person who doesn't talk to others about things going on in there life. I try my best to support members around here.

I do know that @outlander

If I can take something that will help me have less SI, I will.

I am working on getting better. I don't just sit here and do nothing all the time. I am actively improving things. My regular at KHL have been quite pleased with how I've been challenging things and working on gratitude. Also, my psych as well with setting bournes and a few other things he mentioned last week.

I definitely don't feel obligated to get better. I do want to get better. Why would I just say I want to get better, but then I don't? I don't want to be sad, lonely and feeling so bad that I want to end my life I don't think that's a way to live, and I am trying my best with what support and skills I've got.

Hmm, my depression, but I'm actively trying to work on that by creating some friendships, meeting a guy, going to therapy, exercising, and talking to KHL. Gratitude and challenging thoughts. @outlander

That is good @Birdofparadise8 when things get hard or when you feel on crisis remind yourself that these are the steps you’re taking.
Make mini goals along the way. If being visual helps maybe you can create a goals board to check off. Every goal has steps to it as well so that it always feels like your doing something.

try to use phrases like “my depression is bad right now but I am taking steps to improve it by x y z” it’s about giving yourself power for doing positive things and trying not to swim in the negativity

Yeah okay @outlander

A goals board that sounds interesting. What would you suggest?

Also, I'm sorry if I've come across as rude or anything. I think I found some of the conversations hard to understand.