Not Coping

I haven't been doing too much this morning @Birdofparadise8 . It's such a lovely day 🙂

Hope you take a break and be kind to yourself. Remember, you are there to make your parents 'happy'. We may not understand their thoughts and ways, but you will be going soon 🙂

I understand how hard it is for you right now. As I said, when I'm with my parents for a month in Jan, I'll be reaching out for strategies how to cope 🙂

We CAN do it!!!

Hi @Birdofparadise8 how's shopping?

Ah, okay, @tyme

Yeah, it is nice here as well.
Lol, now I’ve just got home, and now we need to put everything away, and then I’m going over to my pop's place for my cousin, pop and aunt's birthday. We are having a murder mystery night.
Then tomorrow is prepping, cooking and organising the house for Monday, and we need to set the tables.
so much to do.
do you mean I won’t understand there thoughts?

I know you say that but I don’t know how this is making them happy when we are fighting. I tried to explain how I felt and she just goes off at me more. It’s hard to explain. I suppose every family dynamic is different.
she just doesn’t think I have a life outside of her and that I’ll do everything she wants. She said she didn’t even think that I might be busy doing something today.

I don't have any strategy other than what you said.

I just want to be able to cry so badly. Hopefully, I can go for a walk tomorrow to the nice water lookout and there is a small area where there are seats so I can go cry there, but I highly doubt I'll be able to leave her.

She thinks I'm 12 or something when I'm not I'm 20 that's what's annoying as well. How she treats me like I'm so little. I've changed a lot this year, and learnt a lot about myself and my needs. They are different to what my needs and boundaries were a year ago.

Sorry, that's a bit of a rant tyme.

What are you doing on Christmas Day? Are you going to your sisters place?

Hi @bartart23

I think the above and my post from this morning can explain how the shopping has been going. Are you doing okay?

If not know I'm thinking of you.

If not

Hey @Birdofparadise8 yeah I read some of the post it looked intense with the way you mum said things I mean in a good way

Besides having visitors last night at 2 different times

I am fine 🫠

Something we're said last night which triggered me

It wasn't from sane or anyone here

Hey @Birdofparadise8 ,

You don't know their thoughts in that you don't know what, how and why they think the way they do sometimes. It's hard to understand the folks at times. Yet deep down, you know that they love you - right?

Hold onto that. Parents will not be around forever.

However, you do what you think is right for you. I just hope you can make the most of your time there as you've only got a few days.

I wonder if it's about sitting down when everyone is calm and letting them know that pulling you up to go shopping in a few minutes is less than ideal? I'm not sure. I don't know your parents. Hence I'm leaving you to have a think about what works.

Take care. I'll be hopping off soon.

Yeah it has been but I'll have to keep pushing through I suppose @bartart23

Oh who visited you?

Oh okay I guess so @tyme

I did try talking to her when we were calm in the car, but it didn't work she said I'm being too sensitive and making it a bigger deal than it's worth. Who knows maybe I am.

I know they won't but I'd appreciate it if they respected me as an adult. I've got four weeks with them. Mum will be with me until the 12th of Jan.

Okay, talk to you when you on next.

Sorry if I didn't reply back earlier I do get all the notifications sometimes I just don't know what to say

I AM FINE 😐🤏 just a little off

I haven't seen that j person around they on holidays? Sorry I forgot the name

Jynx is on holiday’s @bartart23

Oh did they say who called on you?

Were any of them helpful at all?

Oh @@