Not Coping

Usually we use folks usernames even in emails @bartart23 so I'll highlight with the team not to use your name from your email.

It is not that we can't talk about suicide, it is that we must do so in a way that is safe for the community. This Guide for talking about suicide safely online will tell you how you can approach the topic in a way that's safe, and typically won't result in a guideline breach. We ask that members adhere to the Community Guidelines when talking about suicide; to quote the guidelines:

"In order to ensure the Forums are safe for you and other members, please avoid posting an active/imminent plan of suicide or harm to another. The forums are not a crisis service - instead we encourage you to reach out to the services linked below. An active/imminent plan for suicide will be removed to ensure other forum members do not become distressed; and duty of care protocols followed to ensure your safety (this may include escalating to emergency services such as the Police). There are a list of crisis support services available here."

As for one-to-one support, currently the forums do not offer anything like that, but we're working towards some new features for the forums so keep an eye out. If you would like some one-to-one support, you can always contact the support line on 1800 187 263 (Mon-Fri, 10am-8pm).

Hi @Jynx no I don't need one to one I was just wondering because everytime I say something I always get a email or check in one asking my safety which I don't get because you guys don't even talk about suicide or anything

I wasn't getting up that (m) the peer worker I was just saying as I don't go by boy or girl and that name is my abuesd name if that makes sense 😃

I am trying to learn the rules but it takes me a while I am so sorry 😔

I am hoping to chat to someone I have nobody else I feel alone and yes the inners are there but I just wanna chat to someone

I sorry for everything I've done

@bartart23 check in emails are sent when we're concerned about a member's safety - doesn't necessarily have to be about suicide. And if you receive one it's not because you've done something bad, it's just about us making sure our members have enough support for what they're going through. Sometimes, folks might be suicidal but not openly say so, and something they've said sounds quite concerning for the team - so we'll send a check in email just in case.

It's okay for it to take some time to learn the rules! You're not the first nor will you be the last person who makes a few whoopsie posts that the forums team need to step in - but our goal is always to assist our newbies in finding their feet and getting to know what's what so they can continue connecting with the community here.

So no need to apologise to us, you're all good. We're happy to do what we can to make this space as comfortable and safe as possible for all of our members 😊

Mm @Jynx you're a very careing person

I always get a bad fear 🥲

I think everytime I do something wrong I feel like I'll get something bad happened to me just because what happened to me all of my life

And even grown up in child safety I always get the same as what I did with dad Brothers birth lady

Yes I call her that or bitch

I'm a very scared person

I don't like people much but I like you and river person too you guys are very lucky

I hope that makes sense I tried not to use bad words 🏳️‍🌈😊

That's a tough situation for your friend to be, especially when love is involved, your friend sounds so loving.

I bought the printer you recommended it's a really good one! Thank you!

 You got this @Birdofparadise8

I went to work office got my supplies for work and give the office staff a box of chocolates for Christmas. Caught up with a friend at lunch. Went to a reserve with another friend and her dog. Played a few games of rumy o at home had dinner now able to chat.

Nothing I can do to help. He said he doesn't even really like guys, but he liked this one because of how feminine he is. Anyway, I gave him some advice: he can leave it or take it. I just hope it doesn't get too complicated and he gets hurt again.

Ah that's good to hear. I hope you like it. You can print on your phone as well.

What is rumy o @Blackbird11?

@Birdofparadise8 you're probably on the way to the airport by now - I hope you have a good flight and enjoy your time back home.

@bartart23 how are you going? I have been MIA (missing in action) for the last couple of days trying to get some of my MH stuff sorted and it was better I stay offline.

I hope you're okay and feeling even just a tiny bit better today.

Hope y'all are doing okay 💖

Aww thank you @bartart23! It sounds like it was really rough for you growing up. It's not an uncommon thing to feel a big sense of guilt even when you haven't done anything wrong, if during childhood you got in trouble for every little thing.

I hope the forums can feel like a safe space for you to be yourself 😁

Hey @ENKELI

No, I leave tomorrow.

How are you?