FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Something’s not right

Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

24564 replies

13,311 - 13,320 of 24,564
1...1,3311,3321,333...2,457

In response to: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

My mum sounds very similar to yours, @creative_writer

She doesn't want to go to therapy due to her miscarriages, losing my sister, who was four premature, and then me being three months perm as well. Also, her anxiety. I've told her a few times she should go but she won't.

Maybe there is something there because we both have the Enmeshment and they both fon't want to go to therapy.

In response to: Not Coping

Blackbird11Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

Hey @Birdofparadise8

I just had a nap, will cook dinner now.

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

Ah nice I hope you enjoyed your nap @Blackbird11

What are you having for dinner?

Did you get your study done? I'm just looking at some research on sexual assault in CALD communities and how reporting the assault can bring shame to families. It's not a very nice thing.

In response to: Re: Not Coping

creative_writerSenior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8, my mum has trust issues and trauma. I notice things that I don’t think she knows. She was never outwardly mentioned SI to me, but I know she hasn’t gotten it. She has told me about her problems, her past even, but you know, I feel helpless on helping her even though I want to. I tend to shut down. I’ve wondered maybe I’m suppose to help her, she listens to her mum’s problems on the phone, I’ve wondered whether I’m supposed to do the same

In response to: Re: Not Coping

creative_writerSenior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8, discussing SA is a big no in my culture. It’s just how it is. It’s purely cultural, people try so hard to put a religious spin, it’s infuriating

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

From the article you gave me,, I think your feeling like this is a sign of the enmeshment in your relationship with your mother. Maybe you can share things with her and she can share things with you but maybe it's the amount she is relying on could be unhealthy, but I'm not sure @creative_writer

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Blackbird11Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

It was good @Birdofparadise8

I'm making cashew chicken with rice.

I read what I need to do now just thinking about how to go about putting down what I want to say.

Sounds hard going with your study.

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

That sounds yummy @Blackbird11

Good to hear.

It's alright. I chose to do a criminology unit, so there will be a lot of bad things in it.

I haven't had any sexual experiences, so I don't have any issue with talking about these things as I haven't had an assault or anything. However, I'm definitely not saying it's a good thing at all. It's so awful.

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

Hi @Kyle1

How are you today?

In response to: Re: Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

How can I let myself feel sad while being around my parents without them knowing? When I'm in Melbourne I could cry and do whatever I want in my room, but now being back at home, I can't cry whenever I want, and I feel I'm suppressing my emotions.

I feel so sad right now, but I have no way to regulate. I'm really unsure what to do. I need something I can do while there around me. I wish I still had my car so I could leave and go for a drive and cry.

I don't even know why I'm sad I'm around people and that's what I've been wanting and I still feel the same as I would alone.

13,311 - 13,320 of 24,564
1...1,3311,3321,333...2,457

SANE Forums is published by SANE with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health.

SANE Forums does not provide crisis support.
If you need immediate assistance, please see available crisis services.

Learn more about SANE and SANE services at sane.org

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

SANE is a public company limited by guarantee and registered tax-exempt charity with DGR (Deductible Gift Recipient) status.

Charity ABN 92 006 533 606. Donations of $2 or more are tax deductible. SANE, PO Box 1226, Carlton VIC 3053.