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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 8:47 pm AEDT

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Sounds nice then @creative_writer

Yeah all my family came over about 17 of us. I did find it challenging at times, but overall it was a nice day.

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Captain24Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 8:48 pm AEDT

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Hey @Birdofparadise8

My day went surprisingly well! I had no negative comments and no snide remarks.

How was your day?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 8:49 pm AEDT

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That’s great. Yeah went okay in the end, but like usual I’m starting to feel a bit flat. @Captain24

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Captain24Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 8:51 pm AEDT

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I find that happens after a big social day but I do have social phobia! @Birdofparadise8

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:00 pm AEDT

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Yeah, but I seem to always be flat lately once I’m alone or not doing as much @Captain24

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creative_writerSenior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:01 pm AEDT

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@Captain24 I didn’t realise feeling flat after a social event was a social anxiety thing. I get that flat feeling too. After social events, I can get disappointed that I wasn’t able to connect to people like I wanted to. I feel like I feel more comfortable with kids than adults so enjoy it more.

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Captain24Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:10 pm AEDT

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Can you find something to do of a night? Maybe the gym or something? Just to keep you occupied @Birdofparadise8

I go flat after anything slightly social. I think it’s mental exhaustion. It takes so much out of me just to go. The anxiety boarders on a panic attack. Then the stress of being there. The shaking, being unable to speak the list goes on. It is out of control. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a small group or a big group. It doesn’t matter if I know and like everyone or if I don’t know anyone. It’s all the same. @creative_writer

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:12 pm AEDT

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Yeah maybe, but I’m pretty tired after a long day @Captain24

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creative_writerSenior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:17 pm AEDT

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@Captain24 I don’t know if this is weird. But I feel comfortable with young kids, even content. Anxiety dissipates. But with older people I get so anxious, particularly unfamiliar people.

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Captain24Senior Contributor25 Dec 2022, 9:30 pm AEDT

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I don’t know @Birdofparadise8. Is there maybe something else you can do of a night to keep busy?

@creative_writer For me it’s anyone of any age. Some people do relate to children more. It’s actually not that uncommon. My social phobia is getting worse. I leave the house to go to work, appointments or grocery shopping. That’s it. The last time I went into a shop that wasn’t a supermarket was October and that was when I was on holidays with my parents to see my brother.

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