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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Ah okay that's fair enough @outlander

I've heard of dissociation but I don't think I've ever experienced it. Could you explain it to me if you don't mind?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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its hard to explain @Birdofparadise8 you would probably know it if you experienced it though

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Oh, okay, that's okay @outlander

You said it can get dangerous when you have it. That doesn't sound fun.

I don't think I have.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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when i have been in a bad dissociative state i have been driving and couldnt remember how i got to where i was driving. like one minute i was close to home and then the next i was at the shops and i dont remember driving there. or theres been times where ive had a movie on and the whole thing has played and i dont remember watching any of it. i have also self harmed in a dissociative state.
its like im here but im also not. ive probably had conversations with people in that state and have no idea what ive said either. theres been times people have mentioned i had a convo with them and i dont remember it at all.
its not as bad now. i can usually pick up when im starting to dissociate but sometimes its hard not to. @Birdofparadise8

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Mmm, that sounds hard @outlander.

Is there a trigger for it to happen when you are driving, watching a movie or talking to someone?

We don't have to talk about it if you don't want to. I'm just curious to know more about it.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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happens when im overly stressed and overwhelmed overly tired, when im depressed more then usual or more anxious then usual, when im triggerred through my traumas such as now when im going through working though trauma stuff at the moment so its bringing up alot of memories and emotions and thoughts.
its usually when my brain cannot cope with anything. it was scary when i was more suicidal and self harming more then what i am now because sometimes i could help what i was doing and i had dissociated to the point that i didnt know that i had self harmed until i snapped out of it.

ive learnt to manage it abit more but i cant always stop it.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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That sounds scary @outlander I'm happy things aren't as bad as they used to be.

I talked to my Pdoc this morning about a PRN for when I'm distressed at home so I can work on my coping skills better once it kicks in. So she said tonight to try one of them and then tomorrow the other and I'll let her know which one I prefer before I go home on Saturday. I'm not sure if it's supposed to help now as I'm feeling alright, but I haven't noticed anything. It's the lowest dose you can have.

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JynxModerator

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@Birdofparadise8 @outlander thought I could just jump in and provide some info if you like!

Dissociation is part of our autonomic nervous system - it is associated with the 'freeze' part of fight/flight/freeze. Where fight/flight is the nervous system gearing up to act, the freeze part is when running or fighting isn't an option, so the body goes into shut down. When we experience trauma, sometimes in the aftermath the autonomic nervous system can become like a faulty smoke alarm - going off at the slightest hint of danger, rather than in response to actual danger. So, many people can experience dissociation long after the traumatic events have transpired.

It is often described as being disconnected from self (depersonalisation) and/or disconnected from reality (derealisation). Can indeed be very scary. I too am glad that things have much improved for you @outlander.

@Birdofparadise8 you can read more about it here.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Thank you @Jynx

I don't think I've had that, but I definitely know the fight or flight part. I feel like running away when something makes me anxious or a threat. I'll have a look at the link you shared.

How are you today?

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JynxModerator

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@Birdofparadise8 Not too bad, a bit cold though lol. Feels weird to still be using a heater. Melbourne I guess 😂

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