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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 4:04 pm AEDT

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see how you go @Birdofparadise8 most hospitals public and private would usually have some support services in there youd just have to enquire. speak to one of the nurses about whats avaliable at the hospital post admission

my birthday isnt worth celebrating. just worked a triple shift between jobs and didnt really feel like talking to anyone. different when you get older and dont have friends or family that want to celebrate with you so i stopped celebrating it too

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 4:14 pm AEDT

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Aww @outlander

I would have celebrated with you!

Yeah, I will ask a Nurse.

I had my session with my psych and it was good, but hard. He really tried to get me to sit with my emotions today and keep eye contact while I was trying to feel my feelings. I didn't do too badly, but I could do better. I feel I'm becoming more comfortable with each session with him. I feel I'm being more vulnerable with him compared with my other psych.

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 4:24 pm AEDT

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thats good @Birdofparadise8 itsgood you feel your making some progress. maybe this psychologist will be the right one for you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 4:41 pm AEDT

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I do hope so, @outlander

One thing though, I find it hard to express where I feel sadness. I can say when I'm ananxious I have a dry mouth, sweaty or nausious, etc., but it's hard to feel sad. I can only describe it as a wave washing over me, and it feels heavy.

He explained that I am suppressing how I feel because of the bullying and how I wasn't able to communicate my emotions with others, not feeling safe to do so and by getting let down by other professionals such as the teachers and school psy h. He is trying to get me to feel those emotions when I am with him which. Is very hard as I don't like being upset, sad or crying in front of people, but maybe I will who knows. Being vulnrable is very hard, but it will be a good thi g I guess. I don't get how sitting with him crying compared to me doing it on my own would be any different. We kept eye contact for a lot of time and it made me very anxious to try and eel. He also said that my new med seems to make me blunt like I wasn't able articulateate how I was feeling very well. I do hope I won't become numb from the new med. What do you think?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 5:29 pm AEDT

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Hello, does anyone want to chat, please?

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 5:49 pm AEDT

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emotions can be hard to get out @Birdofparadise8 thats what your psychologist seems to be trying to teach you and how to manage that. your medication side effects would need to be discussed with your pdoc but sometimes a minor side effect can be more benefical then without it. that would need to come from you and what you feel though. some people also have bad days. there has been a session with my psych where ive literally sat there because i didnt know what to say and just didnt want to talk

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 5:58 pm AEDT

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Yes, I think so. I'm getting there slowly I think, in four sessions, I've made some progress.

I feel flat, and I definitely don't feel happy. I was looking up on Google if the med can cause emotional blunting, and apparently, it can. I hope I won't lose my ability to cry.

Oh, did you. You didn't say anything at all, @outlander? I feel I would find it harder just sitting there and not talking at all.

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 6:01 pm AEDT

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hardly spoke at all @Birdofparadise8 i do alot of my psychology sessions outside. i needed time to process some things and the session gave me time to do that. we did speak in some bits and pieces but the session wasnt spent conversing as much. it was what i needed at the time

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 6:10 pm AEDT

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Ah okay does your psychologist mind having them outside with like privacy and confidentiality and all that @outlander

I sit in a very psych room it is nice, but yeah.

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 Oct 2023, 6:19 pm AEDT

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i dont do small rooms. its to much @Birdofparadise8 i have one that offers outdoors in quiet areas-we manage by not speaking about personal things when in earshot of others etc.

we were going to try emdr but it was decided against it because i dissociate to the point it can be dangerous so its not the right time for it and i probably wont ever do it.

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