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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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i guess just be honest about how his abruptness makes you feel @Birdofparadise8 every psych has their own approach

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah I have my list @outlander

He keeps interrupting me, commenting on my body language (which I find uncomfortable), how I use defence mechanisms and how he uses the scale 1-10 all the time. He also said he doesn't know why I would talk to KHL and him, so I'm worried about that. I won't give up KHL.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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well you can approach that with him @Birdofparadise8 my psychologist picks up on some of my defense mechanisms too. she finds me intriguing as she says.
she doesnt point out the body language or anything though. that would probably be uncomfortable to me too

he probably wonders why you need the 2 psychologists. some people will only use a service like khl on a regular basis until they are able to get offline support and then just use the service when needed.

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Blackbird11Senior Contributor

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Hi @Shaz51 @Birdofparadise8

How are you? Have you been able to do some self-care today?

I managed to get out for a couple of walks, one on the beach and one in the bush... both stunning.

 

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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It is very uncomfortable when he mentions it because then I worry about it for the whole session @outlander

That is true, but KHL has been a great support, and my regular thinks I need both right now. She doesn't seem to mind that I talk to her and my psych. I don't think I would cope with just one person.

I will discuss that tomorrow with him and see if it's an issue. It wasn't for my previous three psychs.

I just don;t know how to say it all so I don't offend him.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Hi @Blackbird11

I have just had uni today. I'm still in the hospital, trying to workout what to say to my psych tomorrow. I'm feeling quite sad and lonely today.

How are you?

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Blackbird11Senior Contributor

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Hey @Birdofparadise8

Lot's of concentrating then, glad you got uni done. Sad and lonely are valid feelings, we're here for you. Sending you a hug 🤗

I'm doing ok, I have a financial counselling appointment tomorrow morning and work in the afternoon.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Hi @Blackbird11

Yes I am glad to have it done. I'm trying to get a self and peer review form completed.

Thank you. I really don't want to go home yet. I feel like I wont be safe if I do, but I think I might be leaving next week.

That's good to hear. I hope you like being on here as well. Good luck for your appointment.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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you dont need to discuss it @Birdofparadise8 your choice to see the KHL counsellor. thats not up to your psychologist so you dont need to bring it up.

When he points it out next time and it makes you uncomfortable just say that him pointing that out makes you uncomfortable and self conscious and can he be mindful not to point it out in future rather keep his observations like that to himself.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah okay I think that sounds like a good idea @outlander

I feel like he is jumping the gun a bit. He seems to want to go straight into things without building a solid foundation first which I don't know why.

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