Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 well that sounds honestly like your body is doing exactly what it's meant to do, according to what we know about evolution and neuroscience. It protected you when it needed to by ensuring you weren't showing weakness to those who were acting so cruelly towards you. Now that you're away from that situation, it is finally safe for you to unleash all that pent up emotion.

I don't think it will take 10 years though hun. Especially not with all you're also doing to work on yourself and ensure you've got support and care around you.

And you're very welcome. It's one of the ways I truly believe in the power of connection - because sometimes others can recognise things in us that we have forgotten or can't access. Any time you need to hear it I am happy to provide hehe 💜

Defeinly pent up, I don't think I've really talked a lot about the bullying to my psychologist. She seems to want to focus on self-compassion and other stuff, but how do I do that if I haven't processed the bullying first? So I might mention it to her when I see her next week.

I do hope it won't take ten years @Jynx.

Yes, I definitely forget things and what I've done.

I reckon very much worth a mention @Birdofparadise8. It's good to work on the self-compassion and self-care skills first, because it can be very hard to go delving into past traumas if you don't have the skills to help you regulate afterwards.

One such skill is starting a gratitude journal - which could help you when it feels like you've accomplished nothing or you feel worthless or anything like that. And not just gratitude, but noting stuff you're proud of, little wins, ways that you lived according to your values, stuff like that.

Yeah, okay I feel it will be a hard one to face @Jynx

Mmm okay, I'll have a think about it. I see people say how they write five things they are grateful for each day.

Thank you all for the chat tonight @Jynx @outlander @tyme @Shaz51 @creative_writer

I'm going to bed. I have work at 09:00 tomorrow, so I need to get up at 06:30. I need my beauty sleep and especially with how bad it's been the past couple of weeks.

I hope everyone has a nice day tomorrow.

Please take care @Birdofparadise8 🙂

Thank you @outlander @tyme

Have a good day both of you.

Hey @Birdofparadise8 ,

Thanks for your morning message.

I've had a pretty good day. It's been cold though. How's your day been so far? Are you working this evening?