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Family separation

Family separation

Hi l,m new to this forum and nervous. About a month ago my wife of 25 years up and left me with 4 days warning leaving me $ 40 a few small household items and and old car barely reliable. She took the nice car we jointly owned and paid for. She then got a family violence order with a load of untrue claims of domestic violence etc. It resulted in a sucide attempt from me as l have long suffered depression and anxiety. She refuses to communicate and left in a financial mess.

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Thanks @Former-Member . It's still very tough and my ex is still refusing to co operate on anything. I have started drinking again but l am going to see a social worker tomorrow. I really need affordable housing asap.

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Separation can be a hurtful, stressful and an exhausting adjustment. I’m glad you have an appointment with the social worker tomorrow. Hopefully they can help you to find the supports you need at the moment. Be kind to yourself, and be gentle with yourself x

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@Former-Member Thanks for your support. I appreciate your kind words.

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Hi @Former-Member ,

Please know I am thinking of you and deeply sympathetic. Loneliness. Loss and emotional pain. Betrayal at the hands of your family. So cruel. Please get some support. I know the drinking is a way to cope but it can leave you lower than when you were sober. Please make sure you eat a little and rest. Take care.

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Thanks again @Paulette for your kind words. On a positive note despite the problems l am beginning to enjoy cooking again tonight l got a bottle of Domino's pasta sauce with mince , mushrooms and pasta. It's was delicious something l haven't had for years , enough for another meal and feeling satisfied with myself. I have also cooked a few tuna mornays recently.

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Hi @Former-Member ,

I am so proud that you made a lovely Dolmio sauce pasta and the Tuna Mornay. All praise to you for having the strength and tenacity to cook your homemade meals in such difficult times. I also do feel sorry that you have such struggles with affordable housing. I'm with you and please keep contact on here. Hope your night is kind to you and stay warm.

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Thanks for your support @tyme

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Thanks @Paulette will do.

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Hey @Former-Member , It good to hear you are finding the little things that can make you happy.

Try not to get caught up in fairness, from experience anyone who focus's on "what's fair and what's right" usually makes the battle to get back to wellness harder as fairness usually relies on someone else to participate and as you have noted, the people who are your focus are not focused on you.

Keep focused on your own well being. It's great reading your updates.

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Thanks @ AussieRecharger. It's not easy to forget that my own family are doing this damage. My ex is obviously very bitter and twisted but it hurts when she turns the kids against me. I will always be there for my kids and hopefully they speak again in future but my ex l couldn't be bothered with the childish games it achieves nothing.

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