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creative_writerSenior Contributor
I have been struggling a lot lately with suicidal thoughts. It’s become a daily occurrence and it’s been really overwhelming to cope. I am safe right but having to fight this is very exhausting. I feel so trapped, I am tired of living in pain, fear and shame. I feel like a burden to people and unimportant.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@Former-Member I'm not considering a hospital but have been with an outreach program. My mum was not very happy about that either, but I was only provided with this support to help with suicidality. I've kept some struggles within me for years only because I thought my parents didn't want me to talk about them but that only destroyed me. I am still able to make appointments and get support but sometimes I am very secretive about things. My mum generally has a lot of trust issues. I don't know if she underestimates me and sees me as a child even though I'm an adult now. I do think through things but I still don't tell her all my decisions because I am afraid she will think I'm too trusting and I don't want to create conflict.
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@creative_writer, thank you for sharing that with us ❤️
I hear that it's been a struggle to keep things to yourself, but that despite challenges, you've continued to seek support for yourself. It shows a lot of determination for your own wellbeing.
I know we a different background, but also keep a lot of things from my parents. When I was a teenager and lived at home, I often made appointments to see GPs and others without them knowing. Now that I'm almost 30, I still don't really tell them about my mental health, for similar reasons as you. And I think it's really common for our parents to struggle to adjust to us becoming adults. Again, it's different across cultures, but I know a lot of us struggle with that, especially with placing a lot fo value in what our parents think. After all, they've known us longer than everyone else.
But I can see you've built up independence while you've been seeking support for yourself, even if the secrecy is out of necessity.
Is there something you want to be different in how you've been managing the situation so far?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Heya, I'm about to wrap up for the day @creative_writer, but I wanted to say that I struggle with the same thing!
Do you have any strategies you use to help?
Talk soon!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Unknown userMember
Hey @creative_writer,
Sorry I’ve been off this week!!
Hope we get to chat tonight x
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Ha ha @creative_writer, the hangry comes through.
what are you having for dinner? I am going to make a curry. I love curry. I am making a cashew and coconut curry tonight 🤤
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Ahhh fish and vegetables is my average go to. I love the simplicity of taste with that meal. I cheat and buy jars for curries lol. I am not a great chef, in fact, I don’t even like it. Ha ha.
How has your day been?
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