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creative_writerSenior Contributor
I have been struggling a lot lately with suicidal thoughts. It’s become a daily occurrence and it’s been really overwhelming to cope. I am safe right but having to fight this is very exhausting. I feel so trapped, I am tired of living in pain, fear and shame. I feel like a burden to people and unimportant.
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hanamiSenior Contributor
I totally get that @creative_writer . It is so hard to distance yourself from your mum when you're living with her. I just don't know how you do that. It wasn't until I was married that I moved out too. I was 26. And yes definitely hard when your parents have undiagnosed mental health stuff. ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
I moved out of home at age 20 @creative_writer @hanami Wanted to get as far away from my mum as possible. Now she is living with me 😏😏 because she can't afford to rent anywhere.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer rent is expensive. I brought my first house at 20 when I moved out and spent a long time paying it off. I moved in with my fiancé who is now my husband. I guess it was a bit different as I was already in a long term relationship.
It would be hard to get independence when you are living under the same roof. I always felt I had to do what my parents told me even if I was an adult. Their house, their rules.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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@Snowie, I was the same when I was about that age too.
I'm sorry to hear that it feels like the only way you can get independence is by moving out @creative_writer, and that it's lonely even though your'e around family.
I just want to say that I hear you, I relate to what you're saying, and that I hope it can change ❤️
Is there anything coming up soon which might ease some of these feelings? Or any strategies from your therapist which could help?
I know for me, I felt similarly lonely when I was around my family. As I've grown up and become my own person, my relationship with my family has changed a lot. I guess what I'm saying is that there is a possibility of change, even if it's not straight away ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@Former-Member I am not that close to my mum. I was with my Dad before he passed away. He was the glue of the family.
@creative_writer I struggle with friends too. The only friends I have are my husbands friends partners. I am not one to go out with friends or see them myself.
I hope tonight is ok for you.
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Unknown userMember
❤️ @creative_writer
I don't really know what to say, but I've had some similar experiences and it was dark and lonely. All I can say is that I know it changed for me.
I hope you and your psych can figure out some "small" ways to find independence for yourself given everything. Sometimes I find even becoming conscious of the small decisions I've made for myself can be helpful.
What are you getting up this evening?
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